Veteran Nollywood actress, Shaffy Bello, has narrated how she left her husband and children to focus on her career.
The thespian who opened up on her failed marriage for the first time in an interview media personality, Chude Jideonwo, revealed she was married with two kids and based in America with her family.
However, she left them in America over 10 years ago in search of greener pastures for herself in Nigeria.
According to her, she felt her she needed more and had to make the sacrifice to build her career.
The mother of two disclosed that she and her husband eventually divorced five years ago as the distance affected their relationship.
“I came back to Nigeria to spread my wings, I felt like I was pregnant and couldn’t have a chid, like my wings were sort of closed in, like I was boxed in.
I needed more, my soul needed more, I was yearning for more. I didn’t know the price that will come with it but I had to make the sacrifice. I paid the price of not having a connection with my children then. My daughter was 13, my son was 11. I was an hands on mother before I left them. At a point I even quit my job to raise my kids.
I sacrificed a lot for them to be nurtured only to now leave them in their early teenage years with their father and then again, their dad is out there making a living and i am here in Nigeria making a living so they missed the joint parental touch but that is about that.
I left my husband because he allowed me. We divorced 5 years ago when I was 45 and that was a huge sacrifice, he is a good man and father to the children. The distance affected us, long distance relationship was difficult but I knew I wanted this, if I go back, it will be too much of a sacrifice, I wouldn’t be myself and at some point i will resent him so I had to focus on what I wanted. I don’t regret the decision I took.
I judged myself but I thank God he did it for me this way, because it is better for me. You see, I don’t care much what people say about me, but I care more about my children and close knit family.” She said.
When asked if she would give love another chance, she replied, “Yes, I will. I love marriage and marriage at this age for me is gonna be sweet, no babies to nurture just enjoyment”.
