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Ebonyi state Lawmaker popularly known as Afikpo Chic, Hon Maria Ude Nwachi has called out popular blogger Linda Ikeji over recent statements made by the blogger that she can’t marry a poor man.

The lawmaker who considers Linda’s statement an affront on humanity, said Linda should know that no condition is permanent. According to her, Linda can’t have it both ways and must learn to humble herself if she truly wants to find a man who will marry her. Below is what she wrote..

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‘Linda, you cannot have it both ways.

I personally did a lot of damage control for Linda Ikeji when it was alleged she said; she can buy any man with her money. I sincerely did not believe she can utter such; as I could not imagine any reasonable human being saying such. I defended her with all my might. I Paid Facebook and Google to boost and promote the article I took my time to create, image-making style, in order to squash that allegation. Remember, I do not know her in any shape. Never met her. Never spoken with her. I know her the same way millions do, via the fact that she is famous blogger. I Just did it from my heart; for I see her as a role model to women and youths. And I did not want such dent on her image.

Recently, power-blogger, Linda Ikeji, told an interviewer that she can never marry a poor man. Hear her: “No, I can’t marry a poor guy and I’m being honest about it. He doesn’t have to be rich but let him be successful in his own way. When I was 30, my standards were extremely high. Now, I have only three criteria. He must be successful. He must be a good man in the sense that he has to be very supportive of what I do. If he tries to stifle me, I’m out. The third one, is the one that likes to eat groceries well (laughs).”n

On her latest statement, I do not agree with her at all. Firstly; a rich man is nothing but a poor man with money. And; no condition in life is ever permanent.

The scariest thing for a man to hear is not even the one of her saying she can’t marry a poor man, it is the one she says that she would be out if a man tries to stifle her. Then she better just create the man from scratch. Because there is no man, especially African man, that will not attempt to stifle his wife every now and then.

That innocuous utterance has already sent strong signals to those successful men she is seeking that they better go and marry someone that will not attempt to wear the trouser at home with them; and not her. It also indicates to those successful men she wants that she will never be submissive in anyway to them; that she no send and is ready for a divorce at any given time. She is basically preempting divorce even before marriage.

The major reason men, especially African men are working hard to be successful is so they can get that woman they want, that will give them a peaceful home, and the leeway to be the oga of the house. Why would a man go through it all to make it only to marry a woman who is going to become the man of the house with him.

Important: A man is a man, poor or rich. No man with his head in intact, will be okay for a woman to control him. Even if the woman is richer than money itself. It will not happen. Even the poorest man on earth would rather be eating his Indomie in peace than to be controlled by any woman. This applies even in the civilized world. This not about pride, this is human nature.

On money: Being rich, poor or broke is not a permanent state of being. Moreover; money is not the be all and end all of life. Some people are very rich today not just by hard work but by force of universe which can also be interpreted as grace. Let us not dismiss people based on their current condition. Moreover, he only thing constant in life is change.

Hear Linda, “I keep telling people. It’s not that men are scarce. They are not scarce. The type of men that some of us are looking for are scarce. If I want to get married next week, I can. I want a man that I can look up to. Somebody that inspires me, somebody that will push me, motivate me; somebody who has had some success in his own career. I’m inspired by successful people. I can’t wait to meet someone like Tyler Perry.”

Now let us talk about the definition of success. According to her, she wants to marry a successful man, but the man does not have to be rich. This is a huge oxymoron (an epigrammatic effect, by which contradictory terms are used in conjunction).

Success is defined as; the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. And it does not take a genius to understand that by successful, she means a wealthy man. A man of means. Going by the example she gives as her kind of man, Tyler Perry, she has dropped all the hint any one needs to know concerning her idea of a successful man. Perry is an ultra-rich American actor, comedian, producer, director, screenwriter, playwright, author, and songwriter.

The problem i see with Linda is that she is often too open about her feelings. I will advise that in her search for a man that she should keep some of her criterias private. This is not America, this is not oyibo land where women can say and do anything with minimal or no consequence. Emotional intelligence is knowing your environment and adapting to it; especially when it comes to utterances, actions etc. It is not everything the heart conceives that must be uttered publicly.

Dear Linda, you can’t have it both ways. You can’t eat your cake and have it too. Being a very successful woman in Nigeria, you must be willing to compromise when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex. You might not be a girl, due to your high level, a man can tell what to do or what not to do, but you must not say such out loud, you must give vibes that you can be told what to do by your man, you must do your best to show them the utmost respect, the most respect you can muster to give them. You are going to have to eat humble pies for your man many a times. And it is okay my darling, it will take nothing away from you. Let the man to feel he is in control. You must try and do that. It is not an option, it is necessary.

By your success alone, you have made many men feel a bit less manly, and so to even rub it in by reading them riot acts to them, is an overkill. Humility is a natural gift, those who are humble by nature will remain humble even if they become the richest on earth. But humility can be learned too, in dealing with the opposite sex you will need a mighty doze of humility, nnem, learn it if by force biko. Always remember that a man is a man is man is a man. Respect matter to a man; no matter his status and class. Linda, in the end you will have the last laugh, when you are running around with your cute kids doing one or two things and your hubby by your side. When you are compromising and eating them humble pies, think of your family (your own kid/s and man) and it will all be worth it.

By virtue of you being a very successful woman, African woman for that matter, no matter who you marry, it is not going to be easy. But if you do your math properly, do some adjustments and amendments, you won’t have any regrets. Life as we know it is not a bed of roses for anyone, if you have this, you might not have that, so it’s all about compromise and middle-ground.

You are a very public figure. Your public utterances must be guided. By virtue of your rag to riches success story; you have become an involuntary role model to many; including me. You are intelligent but you need to take a class on emotional intelligence. Be very mindful of your public statements please. I wish you more success in life. Thank you.

Sincerely yours,
Maria Ude Nwachi (Afikpo Chic).
#BCEL – Best Chic Ever Liveth (Nwanyi Afikpo)’.

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320 COMMENTS

    • If she choose to stay single or she have the kind of guy she wants is her decision and let’s respect that she is not married doesn’t mean suitors are not coming to her

    • @Ajoku, women shouldn’t be too selective, if a man propose to u, involve God & ask Him for direction, don’t say YES bcos d man is wealthy, I’ve seen couples dat started with nothing, today they have almost everything & are happily married, some of u are too selective that’s why u end up marrying d wrong person.

    • We all have our life to live am not hear to discuss other people life affair after all we all have our own ugly side fix urs and lets others fix theirs is non of anyone’s business is she marries or not

    • And who are u to take it personal, her family member or friend, u reach her level go and do something important today is Tuesday that means a working day or u have no job to do, if u have something important go and attend to it instead of discussing someone that doesn’t know something like u exist. U are married and yet u can’t take care of ur family, ask her to lend u some money which will enable u to start some thing in other to earn a living bcus I can see that a full grown man like u is jobless by this time of the day, get urself busy with something reasonable than this, u are just wasting ur time here. Married man indeed.

    • @Ajoku Chika, u are a very useless idiot, when brilliant people comment on issues, senseless people like u should not join, i know u live in brothels that’s why marriage is far from ur calendar, prostitution pays no good, only a foolish man will take ur chaff after u might have finish urself with different men, only God knows how many men u’ve infected with different diseases. Useless thing.

    • Emmanuel u cannot take good care of urself talk more of ur family I just found out u are just one hopeless animal that has poverty written all over him. low class like u, second hand citizen for that matter. U look hungry have u eaten since three days now gosh, u are poor and at the same time a wizard. Linder ikeji is a lady but have achieved so many things in her life, is guys like that their wife beat at home. Come and wash my clothes I will pay u well and the money will also enable to feed urself for like one week from now.

    • Look at barrow pusher telling a millionaire how to live her life, what’s ur business with her life if she choose to stay single do u have a problem with that or u want to wash plate for her on her wedding day, don’t worry u will get the job after all u are jobless, real men don’t discuss women is a lunatic like u that sit at one kaikai joint and be discussing about women, I can even perceive ur mouth an body odour from her ugly thing

    • @Ajoku Chika, it’s a pity u don’t know me, am working & Federal Government is paying heavily, as a student, how much do u have? U can’t even feed urself u want to give me money, that which u are searching for, I’ve gotten mine years back, i served when u were in primary school, If u need financial help from me, come out plain.

    • Hahaha @ Emmanuel not only federal government even international government u are just a borrow pusher they sacked u from ur former post as a gateman that is why u are angry at life now, u don’t have to hate single ladies bcus ur boss that got u sacked is a single lady, who are u to blame none than urself African monkey like u fool

    • U are APC servant all u do is carry broom trekking from street to another shouting APC for life, while the real mean in APC sit at office and enjoy themsrlves, they will gather twenty of u and give u people #2000 and yet u will still fight over it bcus I knw u own share is just #200 maga 40 and mugu 70 like u

    • Lunch am sure is bread and pure water, have u eaten balance diet for once in ur entire life, no wonder u developed tumor in ur stomach, go and eat ur leftover food and continue ur barrow pushing.

    • What are mine even doing exchanging words with a poverty descendant like u. I forgot I just pass through a notice now they said mortuary attendant needed u know u can do the job very well after all u look scary I don’t even hate u because u are useless I hate u more bcus u are ulgly he goat am sure u come from the family of apes

    • @Ajoku Chika, I’ve close for d day, responding to ur senseless & useless comments is of no benefit, i control people are far better than u a million times, d respect i earned is too high for me to degrade it before a small idiot like u who can’t even bathe well, i therefore decide not to reply ur comments again. We are not in d same level, fullstop

  10. Wow! Reading this lawmaker’s epistolary on how Linda should express her feelings about marriage publicly is making me dizzyanyway what she is advising is majorly true but it’s obvious Linda wants to end up with someone like herself(in the male form) and she can’t help but publicly express it ( tho it’s bringing or giving room to all manners of judgement )anyway beautiful Linda, May u find what or who u are seeking

  17. Sometimes the way people sounds on d outside is diff from whom they re on the inside. And our understanding differs. Every girl have wot they want in their man, so don’t kill her cos she made hers open.

  18. That goes to what I said earlier when she was stating her high quality of man she wants and one bitch tried to say against it. No she should not humble herself until those deaf spirit and pride spirits stop doing soft work on her then her eyes will open like the stock fish. Okporoko in Igbo language.

  20. whether poor or rich just pray for dat mr right cause it will be bad thing that one will marry someone that’s not made for him/her even if u are rich u can still make d poor man rich cause marriage is all about love nd happiness

  21. So many bitterleafs here worrying about linda getting married or not , even if she doesn’t get married at 100, how does it affect the price of bag of rice , u people better double ur hustles and leave the woman alone. Is she ur sister ?? Christmas is near o and instead of u people to worry about what u can afford for your families in this buhari period , u are here typing rubbish , atleast she is helping young Nigerians find their feet , who have u helped ???

  31. Why is Linda’s own different? Because I believe singles have the right to say this is the kind of man or woman I want to marry. Guess I didn’t see anything wrong with what she said. Just free her, if she sees her kind to marry fine, and if she did not see none of you or mine business.

    • Babe u have a point…..I am married yes. I respect my husbaNd yes..but Nigerians should wake up from this their 1704 way of thinking. A woman’s happiness is not solely tired down on being married or single…it’s about be what u want to be and living happy. Marriage is also not about sex cos I don’t know y some men will relate to any single lady as “cucumber”. The retarded way most of our men talk these days i think thats the problem we are having in this country. Can’t men be reasonable and responsible responsible like my hubby?….

    • Uchechi Rosemary Onyeka d 1708 reasonin dat keeps ur marriage for a very long time n d western culture u ppl now want practice in which their own marriage last only for 2years or some even months which one is better. Queen Ndidi u keep jumpin from one comment to anoda insultin ppl, cant u just b civilized like wat u claimed to b?

  45. But I don’t believe that Men, in fact Mens have not been approaching her for marriage..
    Linda is Rich, Strong, Intelligent, and Beautiful.
    These qualities alone are enough to attract men queuing for her.

    She should kindly do something about it cos I personally want her to marry soon.
    May God bless her with a good husband.

  49. Aside being humble, all this talk about my man should be this or that, sex sex sex should limit. A woman should hv her freedom but our African ladies should not compare themselves with Whites when money and fame is around.

  67. Fock maria for her advice, s she maried? Dat means she her self s nt humble. Maria dnt hv d pedigree for our young girls/ladies as role model to look up to in terms of successful marriage or woman.

  68. I don’t think anyone hate Linda,but any woman of her age not married is a thing of concern to all..just that i smell pride in her,maybe she thinks money is everything,but there’s something more than money.

  71. Maturity is by mind nt by age!none is perfect bt at least respect ur self,if wat u re lookin for is nt coming ,hang up wit a guy den get pregnant train de child by urself, if am in ur shoe dats wat I will do,instead of u marrying today den divorce tomorrow, jxt prove to de world u can carry 9months n put to birth also simple

  73. but how much way Linda get saf way una no go let mi here word the last time i check the richest woman in African and Nigeria her na name to near any. una one kill these gir, is she the only single lady how about Rita Dominic that is even older then her she no get peace

  75. Its humility and submissiveness to a man that makes a woman attractive to a man,not money or fame.This is why your man don’t notice that beautiful hairdo,new dress,even perfume when the woman is proud..I see a lot of proud women commenting here.

  80. oh this lady is amazing, very diplomatic. i love this lady for this..A man is Aman rich or poor. that’s why some times it looks like women are senseless what a fuckery statement? a rich man will humbly marry a very poor gal or a gal that comes from poor family and love her treat her right with respect.. has any one of us heard men say I can’t marry a poor gal?? hell no. we don’t say fuckery thin like, only senseless gals do

    • Yes my dear. I hv come across so many men. I said so “many men” who said they won’t marry any lady that will not be capable of shouldering financial responsibilities with them. For goodness sake u r talking about 21st century men.

    • u termed it” financial responsible” he didn’t say he won’t a poor lady or lady who is not rich.. Is a normal thing for a lady to assist in financial issues in the family, that doesn’t mean a man is no longer a man, a man saying he needs A wife who can help finance is not wrong statement to compare a lady saying that she won’t marry a man who is not rich and also who would want to control her as a wife.. Is totally disturbing. tnx

  84. All Shakara na SHILOH em day end put…
    U see them going to SHILOH for marriage miracles….
    Wen they have passed thier age….they seek the face of God… They are very lucky we have a merciful God who loves us beyond our imagination

  90. To me ooo, don’t bite me is my humble opinion, I didn’t see anything wrong in what Linda said, I mean successful don’t necessarily mean being wealthy, a successful man in his on field can be a young man dat understands it all, a man with set out goals and potentials to achieve dem,a man with a normal account balance that kws his duties despite his wife begin rich, a man dat kws his Woman has right and not just someone at his Beck and call, success don’t really mean excess money, so if she says successful man probably she is talking of dis criteria, besides a woman of her standard takes time in getting married cos some men can be funny,especially when d wife is richer u see him directing every little thing to d fact she is richer she now neglect him

  92. Oh menh, when has it become a crime for some1 to know wat she wants and has to courage to voice it out? Linda said her man must be rich and good in bad. Now tell me how many of y’all needs a broke Nigga as a hubby.? She knows wat she has been through in the cause of trying to make it in life and probably y’all xpects her to just go to one lazy guy who couldn’t hustle hard like his fellow men, hell no….
    Let me ask again, if a guy says he wouldn’t marry an ugly, unskilled, unromantic gal, Wil y’all prosecute him? Probably no. But because she is a lady that knows wat she wants and doesnt give shit about wat y’all think, every1 wants her head.
    My candid advice to the ladies here is , if u dnt know wat u want….. U Wil end up not knowing when wat u want shows up…… So been specific isn’t a sin….. Y’all watch and see what becomes of her soon… #lovelinda#

  95. Is marriage by force. U shouldn’t live a life of pretence simply because u want to marry. Live ur life the way u are so that if anybody sees u and like u, it means he has accepted everything about u

  103. What’s not been humble about what she says? That’s her choice for a husband. I see humility in that. Do you want her to lie? Or wish for lazy, no job, broke ass men? Truth be told, some of the men today are lazy. They tend to wait for their women to do all the money bringing stuffs while they squander. She says, she does not want them, how does that portray her otherwise? I pray she finds her heart desire.

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  123. Plz plz u ppe sld let linda be,if she has money is it ur money.plz mind ur biz she says what she require from a man hw does dat affect d lady dat is advising.mrs advisers b honest to ur self wounld u want a broke ass nigga for a man.lazy jobless women

  128. Strong women intimidate weak men. But Linda is not ready, judging from her criteria weeks ago. When you fall in love that is sufficient for you to get married, nothing else will matter in this world. You will be willing to live with the basics and enjoy that loving relationship that puts a smile on your face.

  136. Who told you she wants someone to marry her now. Why do u always teach women to see marriage as been the most important. Linda is making her money without the aid of a man nd u guys re here sayin all sort of nonsense.

    How abt men who re arrogant, what do u say to them? Its high time u guys start seeing women as humans too abeg

  147. See is better u talk into her senses bcs marriage is not by competition. Linda lower ur pride so that u can find a good husband. Very soon God will locate u and gives u ur heart desire.

  149. Please is being single a crime? If she doesn’t get married so what. She is not going to go crying from gate to gate for that reason. Please free her. Getting married to just anybody in the name of being married, is really worth it?

  161. Thats why I always respect this woman, so humble.
    And to Linda ikeji… Let her try it and see… Recently we hard of actors going for divorce… At least if that’s het aim to never have resting home she should go for her choice…. Women need to know it doesn’t come đź’Ż percent the way dey want it

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