Veteran singer, Charles Oputa, popularly known as Charley Boy, has questioned the significance of crossover service held by Christians on New Year’s Eve.
Taking to his Instagram page on Thursday, December 30, Area Fada as he’s also known, called it “nonsense” and asked which purpose it serves.
He wrote,
“Crossover Nonsense.
What exactly is the significance of cross over night? Is it stated anywhere in the bible ? Apart from the fact that its a time to worship God is there any other magical or physical purpose?
I know say many don dey prepare to run into the church about few minutes to 12 just to enter the next year in the church from all sort of places and it makes me wonder what kind of assurance dem yeye pastor dey give them?
I laff in Oguta, nobody is crossing to anywhere untill Buhari packs and goes. We all die here. Get ready for 2022 e go rugged bad oooooo For those wey no get mind, u are free to die now
Nigerian filmmaker, Imoh Umoren, has taken to social media to share his observation from his numerous trips abroad.
According to him, he has seen more homeless people in New York than in Lagos. He asserted that this is because there is poverty everywhere.
Responding, actress Beverly Naya, stated that living in a shack abroad is considered as being homeless however, she negated his stance that there are more homeless folks abroad.
Taking to the micro-blogging platform, Umoren advised that people who cheat on their partners should at least use protection.
According to him, cheating partners should protect themselves from sexually transmitted diseases for the sake of their partners, as it will be unfair to break someone’s heart and also give them a disease.
In his words,
“If you are cheating on your partner the least you can do is use protection. It’s unfair to break someone’s heart and give them a disease too”.
A Nigerian man has shared a photo of a “slim-fitted” three-storey building he saw in Lagos Island.
In the photo, the narrow house which had “Ayinde Villa” written boldly on it, was built closely between two other houses.
According to Twitter user @unclebayotics, anyone living in the house will have to watch their weights so they don’t become too fat for the entrance.
The post has caused a huge stir online as netizens wonder what the interior looks like and how tenants are supposed to move around in their apartments.
He tweeted,
“Na by force to build house for island? What is this na
If you dey live for this kind house, you gats watch wetyn you dey chop make you no fat”
Media personality, Daddy Freeze has reacted to Controversial Nigerian preacher, Kate saying that women whose bride price are not paid will never see the face of God.
This came after a lady whose wedding she attended, narrated how she saw a vision of herself going to heaven but started “coming down”. She said after another lady asked why she’s no longer going to heaven, she heard a voice saying ‘her bride price has not been paid which is why she can’t go’.
Sister Kate further stated that the issue of bride price is very serious and can hinder one from getting to heaven even with their religious positions and soul winning campaigns.
See video below ;
Daddy Freeze then took to his page to issue a reply, and he told Sister Kate to “go to heaven alone”
Read his reply below ;
Aunty, please go to your heaven alone and in peace, thank you! – Mary and Martha that served Christ food (Luke 10:40) and contributed from their resources (Luke8:1-3) were not married. By your distorted standards, they won’t make heaven and you would? – Be there seeing self induced visions. – Below is a biblical, Old Testament marriage template that doesn’t require bride price and as ordered by God himself. – ◄ Deuteronomy 21 ► New Living Translation [10] “Suppose you go out to war against your enemies and the LORD your God hands them over to you, and you take some of them as captives. [11] And suppose you see among the captives a beautiful woman, and you are attracted to her and want to marry her. [12] If this happens, you may take her to your home, where she must shave her head, cut her nails, [13] and change the clothes she was wearing when she was captured. She will stay in your home, but let her mourn for her father and mother for a full month. Then you may marry her, and you will be her husband and she will be your wife.
British Supermodel,Naomi Campbell, has taken to social media to heap praises on popular Nigerian music star, Wizkid.
This comes on the heels of Wizkid’s sold-out concerts in the O2 Arena, UK, where he gave several fast-rising Nigerian artistes a platform to perform before an international audience.
The businesswoman, actress and singer, wrote on her Instagram page,
“Big wiz @wizkidayo proud to call you my lil bro and to see with everyone your journey unfold. How many albums we will never hear, as you are the quintessential perfectionist!! You have bought afrobeats mainstream to the world, and always bringing your brothers and sisters alongside you !! 1st billboard top 10 “ essence “breaking records selling out 02 3 consecutive nights, grammy nominations, apple artist of the year, and countless others.
“your first night at o2 after your show you should be celebrating, but you are introducing me to your photographer @zap_308 who writes on his phone he would like to be 1st indian photographer and break the barrier for the deaf and dumb community to make it in fashion.
“I start talking back, and you tell me, he can’t hear you, and can’t talk to you either, you then proceed to take my phone and write and translate to him so we can be connected !! This is who you are !! our #starboy wiz for the people !! Wiz to the world. Knock ‘em dead tomorrow in lagos. I love you always, your sis #starboyeffect“
The family of 23-year-old Lauren Smith-Fields who was found dead in her apartment, are currently seeking answers into the circumstances surrounding her untimely death.
Lauren was found unresponsive in her apartment on December 12th after meeting an “older white man” on dating app, Bumble. According to her family, it was the older man who alerted authorities about her death.
Although the investigators and medical examiner are yet to comment about the incident and disclose the cause of her death, her family are demanding that the white man be investigated.
Lauren’s distraught brother, Lakeem Jetter, said the investigators told him the man doesn’t need to be investigated because he’s a “nice man”.
Speaking on her tragic demise, her dad said, “Without a doubt, we know that my daughter was not a drug user, and I had a second autopsy myself paid out of pocket because we felt so uncomfortable with the way it was handled.”
He also claimed when he contacted the police, the detective that attended to him was “very insensitive, condescending and arrogant.
Meanwhile, the City of Bridgeport has now released a statement, stating that they will review the handling of the case.
“The Bridgeport Police Department takes these concerns very seriously. The Command Staff of the Detective Bureau is reviewing the handling of this case to ensure that best practices were and are being followed. It is imperative to note that the death of Lauren Smith-Fields remains an ongoing investigation. Our department extends its deepest condolences to the family of Lauren,” the statement reads in part.
Watch a video of the family expressing how they feel about their daughter’s death below,
Popular Nollywood actress, Mercy Johnson-Okojie, is celebrating the 9th birthday of her daughter, Purity Okojie, one whom she revealed as her ‘one true love.’
The proud mother took to her social media page to share beautiful photos of her daughter and she used the opportunity to reveal the wonderful meaning of her name.
Sharing the photos, she wrote ;
“OSEBHAJIMENTE, it means “.God did not put me to shame,” My baby is 9 Today…..Lord do that which only you can do in her Life. IJN.
Happy Birthday Princess Purity….@theokojiekids My Very Own Life”
A Nigerian man, Comrade Onwe Philip Ogenyi, has died in a motorcycle accident just hours after his wife gave birth to their first child.
The 33-year-old Ebonyi State University graduate tied the knot with his wife on November 27, 2021 in Abakaliki, and sadly passed away on December 16.
According to reports shared online by his friends, he was on his way home from the Federal Teaching Hospital Abakaliki where his wife gave birth to a baby boy, when he had the accident that led to his death.
He will be buried in his hometown, Aguachi Ukwagba Ngbo, Ohaukwu Local Government Area of Ebonyi State.
His friend have taken to social media to mourn his unfortunate demise. One Ogenyi Callistus wrote on Facebook,
“Dear SOUL BROTHER Ogenyi Philip, just two weeks after your wedding, you went to hospital with your precious wife for child delivery.”
“After a successful delivery, just for you to go get some items from home back to the hospital, you never returned to the hospital but travelled to great beyond
“You could not even name your handsome boy. Philip, who does that? Could it be your fate that you’ll never see your own child? Again, dear philip, who accepts such ugly fate?
“SOUL BROTHER Philip,as you return back to ashes tomorrow, we your brothers will be coming from today’s night for the last homage but we ask you for a thing: Be the first and the last amongst us to travel this young. Shut every entrance to untimely death against US and, we shall live to honour you in remembrance.
“As our pioneer president, we all miss you so very HUGE, SOUL BROTHER Philip. As our undergraduate schoolmate, we miss you so very DEEP, Mr. President. As great friends united in comradeship, we all miss you so very UNENDINGLY, comrade Philip.
“You was a study in humility and your passage at this untimely age has left in us great pain. We MOURN you so very DEEPLY and we LOVE you so very PASSIONATELY and DIFFERENTLY even at/in death. May CHUKWUOKIKEABIAMA grant you eternal bliss, SOUL BROTHER Philip. Isee! Iseee!! Iseee”
The clergywoman, in a trending video, had advised women to ensure they always cover their husband’s nakedness as there is no perfect husband anywhere.
Her words,
“Let me say this to you that are married. Cover your husband’s nakedness. There is no perfect husband anywhere. Stop celebrating your husband’s failures. Is it because people are not telling you their stories? Do you know what people have gone through and are going through? You talk about your husband everywhere you go in the neighborhood. Everybody knows your story. It’s not right.”
Apparently, this didn’t sit well with actress, Victoria Inyama, as she attacked her for always talking about what women should do in their marriages.
She also questioned if Pastor Adejumo stays at home long enough to practice the things she preaches.
Victoria commented,
“Madam Preacher….Almost all your attacks are on Women ‘…..the fact that you wear the trousers in your marriage doesn’t mean you should keep attacking women…. U only talk about what the woman should or should not do….always…..I can’t even place your husband’s face….Are you home long enough to do all you preach? Cause I see you in different countries most times…Marriage is a union between ‘2’ people….there’s no ‘Perfect ‘ ……l would love to hear your husband preach about you ‘ if he ever does……”
Precious Chikwendu, estranged wife of Nigerian politician, Femi Fani-Kayode, has shared a think-piece for single men and women.
The mum of four, in a post shared on her Instagram page, advised single folks to be grateful with their status because there’s nothing lonelier than being with a toxic person.
According to Precious, who is currently at loggerhead with her ex-husband, FFK, being single is much better than being in a relationship with an abuser and narcissist.
She wrote,
“How to be grateful when single?
Well, if you’ve ever dated or cohabited with a narcissist, you’ll probably already have immense gratitude for
the single life. Do NOT be guilted by society or shamed by the people who try to pressure you into getting into another relationship quickly simply to escape’ the single status. Many of the same people pressuring you to commit to someone prematurely are in unhealthy relationships themselves or settling for less.
There is nothing lonelier than being with a toxic person.
Being single and happy is much more preferable and fulfilling than being with an abuser.
Yeah or Nay ?”
The royal family of Olushi Onigbesa have made an appeal to the Lagos state government to stop the Chairman of the National Union of Road Transport Workers, Mr Musiliu Akinsanya (popularly known as MC Oluomo) from becoming the Oba of Oshodi or laying claim to the Obaship stool.
The royal family in a statement by its head, Kabiru Eyantan, revealed that MC Oluomo is not eligible for the position because he is from Ejigbo area of Lagos state and also not a member of the Olushi Onigbesa royal family.
Read their statement below ;
“The attention of the Olushi Onigbesa royal family of Oshodi Awori Kingdom has been drawn to the picture of Alhaji Musiliu Ayinde Akinsanya aka MC Oluomo, Chairman, NURTW in Lagos State circulated on numerous social media platform where he was dressed in traditional kingly attire intended for an Oba in Yorubaland.
“Our attention has also been drawn to the trending videos and news in social and conventional media with reference to the message delivered by a first class Oba in Ikorodu Division at the coronation anniversary of Oniba of Iba Kingdom in Iba Town, Ikeja Division on the issue of intended aspiration of Akinsanya to become Oba of Oshodi.
“We plead with the Lagos State Government to avert communal crisis, breakdown of law and order and bloodshed in Oshodi community, if urgent action is not taken by our proactive and peace-loving Governor, Mr Babajide Sanwo-Olu, to stop MC Oluomo from soliciting to become the Oba of Oshodi or laying claim to the Obaship stool.
“To put the record straight, we state that the tribunal of inquiry into chieftaincy matters in respect of the upgrading Baale of Oshodi to first-class Obaship status was set up by Lagos State Government and lasted between January 2003 and December 2008 and the tribunal recommended that the Olushi Onigbesa royal family of Oshodi land is the only family eligible and entitled to the stool of the Oba of Oshodi.
“Alhaji Akinsanya is not a member of the Olushi Onigbesa royal family in Oshodi land and has no right to be the Oba of Oshodi stool and therefore is not eligible to aspire or to be appointed to the stool of Oba of Oshodi.”
Popular Clergywoman, Funke Felix-Adejumo dished a very important marital piece of advice to Women.
In the video trending on social media, the clergywoman while preaching asked women to ensure they always cover their husband’s nakedness as there is no perfect husband anywhere.
Speaking during her sermon, Adejumo said;
Let me say this to you that are married. Cover your husband’s nakedness. There is no perfect husband anywhere. Stop celebrating your husband’s failures. Is it because people are not telling you their stories? Do you know what people have gone through and are going through? You talk about your husband everywhere you go in the neighborhood. Everybody knows your story. It’s not right.”
Big Brother Naija ‘shine ya eyes’ star, Saskay has cried out over being scared of the new life reality show has given her.
The reality show star said she realized this after trying so many times to share an Instagram post which wasn’t working the way she wanted.
She wrote on Twitter ;
Earlier this evening, I tried to make an ig post and it wasn’t working the way I wanted it to. I got frustrated and broke down crying. That was when I realized how sad and scared of this new life I am.
Shoutout to everyone trying something new. It’s okay to be sad, tired or frustrated sometimes. It’s okay to feel weak and fall The most important thing is getting up and trying again. ‘Nothing great was ever done without much enduring’.
Nigerian-American Rapper, Olubowale Victor Akintimehin, better known by his stage name Wale, might have broken many hearts with his latest stance with marriage.
According to the ‘matrimony’ rapper, he does not see marriage as the life for him so he will never get married.
He made this known while replying a fan on Twitter who claimed they could have gotten married.
Popular Instagram Twerker, Janemena, has reacted to Reno Omokri’s post saying a virgin wife is the only wife whose full bride price should be paid.
Reno post on social media read ;
”Dear men,
Look at the Alaafin of Oyo. 83, and still having babies. Therefore, never accuse any woman of marriage desperation. Your timeframe and her’s are not the same. You are being selfish if you date any woman for five years without genuine hope for marriage.
However, ladies should not give men sex as a means of luring them to marriage. Everyone is equal as human beings, but not all wives are equal.
The highest value wife, according to Scripture, is a virgin wife. She is the ONLY Wife of which full bride price should be paid-Exodus 22:17.
Traditionally, the White Wedding dress is ONLY for virgins”
Reacting, Janemena took to her instastories to thank God that somebody’s son has already paid her own bride price in full.
In her words ;
Chaiii thank God somebody’s son haff paid mine in full.
Sorry to the rest of you. I wish your virginity well.
Nichole, daughter of veteran Nollywood actor, Richard Mofe-Damijo, has addressed her friends and associates who have a crush on her father.
Nichole, the daughter of the actor and his late wife, May Ellen-Ezekiel, had taken to her Instagram page to celebrate her dad and her ‘bonus mum’ on their 21st wedding anniversary.
Sharing a loved-up video of the couple, she told her friends who have a crush on her 60-year-old father to calm down.
“Happy 21st wedding anniversary to my dad and bonus mom, And to all my friends and associates with crushes, let this calm you down.” She wrote.
See her post below,
Meanwhile, RMD also took to his official Instagram page to shower praise on his wife as they celebrate 21 years of marital bliss.
He shared an old photo alongside a recent photo of them together and captioned it, “How it started vs How it’s going.”
In the appreciation post to his wife, RMD noted that Jumobi, a former TV presenter, gave up her fame to make them a home.
A young Nigerian man proposed to his girlfriend at sensational singer, Simi’s concert, which was held in Lagos last night.
The young man went down on a keen in front of the large crowd at the concert and popped the question.
Sharing the video on her Instagram story, the ‘woman’ crooner revealed the man got a yes and asked that her fans help find the couple.
“The highlight of the night, I love love”, Simi captioned the video.
Watch video below,
In related news, a man’s proposal has been dubbed ‘proposal of the year’ after he popped the question to his girlfriend of seven years on stage at Adele’s concert.
The young man went all out for the proposal as he got the help of Adele, who is one of the world’s best-selling music artists, to pull off the romantic proposal to his girlfriend during her CBS special “Adele One Night Only”.
The romantic boyfriend identified as Quentin, brought his unsuspecting lover, Ashley, to Griffith Observatory, where Adele was performing.
Ashley had no idea her boyfriend was taking her to the concert. She assumed they were going for a picnic while she was brought on stage in a blindfold.
“I need every person to be really quiet, alright? If you make a noise, I’m going to kill you,” Adele told her audience before Quentin guided Ashley, who was blindfolded, to the stage.
When Ashley’s blindfold was removed, she was utterly dumbfounded to see the audience in front of her and her boyfriend on his knees asking for her hand in marriage, after seven years of dating.
Peter Okoyo of the popular Nigerian singing group, P-Square has addressed an online beggar who asked him for half a million Naira.
The Twitter user woke up and wrote that he needed 500K Naira, then decided to tag prominent Nigerians to help him achieve that. He however did not reveal what he intended to use the money for.
Peter saw the tweet and wrote ;
Now! Tweets like this is what this fraudsters are after off. They see how desperate you come online and beg for Money or giveaway and they will take advantage of you! By claiming it’s me and you will fall for it! Stop the fucking online begging! Irritating
Big Brother Naija lockdown star and successful businesswoman, Ka3na jones, has disclosed that she has included her Instagram account to her will.
The mother of one who made this disclosure in a tweet on Wednesday, December 29th, revealed she decided to add her Instagram account with over 900k followers to her will because she thought it’s wise to do so.
According to her, her Instagram followers are precious to her and worth more they can imagine.
“I just updated my will for 2021. I recorded a house, store, KPL store. This year, I also added my Instagram account to my will. 2022 ready.
“2021 Ended Well After All . I’m Grateful For Life! PS: I’ve Been Doing A lot Of Thinking Lately And It’s Only Wise That I Include My IG Account To My Will This Year. Y’all Are Worth More To Me Than You Can Imagine”. She wrote.
Social Commentator, Reno Omokri has taken to his page to opine that a virgin bride is the only one that is deserving of a full bride price.
According to him, the highest valued wife is a wife who is married as a virgin.
Read his post below ;
”Dear men,
Look at the Alaafin of Oyo. 83, and still having babies. Therefore, never accuse any woman of marriage desperation. Your timeframe and her’s are not the same. You are being selfish if you date any woman for five years without genuine hope for marriage.
However, ladies should not give men sex as a means of luring them to marriage. Everyone is equal as human beings, but not all wives are equal.
The highest value wife, according to Scripture, is a virgin wife. She is the ONLY Wife of which full bride price should be paid-Exodus 22:17.
Traditionally, the White Wedding dress is ONLY for virgins”
Music producer, Samklef has finally shared his two cents over a tweet shared by Ghanaian music star, Shatta Wale, in continuation of his rant about Nigerians shining on the global market.
Shatta Wale had gone off on a rant about Nigerians not giving same publicity he claimed Ghanaians give Nigerian singers. He then enjoined Nigerians to enjoy their shine on the global market as the tables will soon turn.
In his words ;
The table will soon turn … No man bigger than God !!! Ghana artiste go shine on the global market oneday ..Enjoy your time ..But don’t come complaining when it’s our TIME!!
Samklef noted that Shatta Wale is talented but his ego is consuming him.
The music producer then played down Shatta Wale’s remarks as he noted that he is simply using Nigeria for clout.
A Nigerian lady who got married as a virgin, has revealed that she could not have sex with her Husband for months.
The lady identified as Titothewriter, shared some of the traumatic experiences she faced including getting violated by a doctor. She also disclosed that she and her husband had to find other ways to enjoy each other even after undergoing a surgery over not being able to consummate their marriage.
On the first anniversary of her wedding, she took to her social media page to share ;
A WHOLE YEAR AFTER
As hard as I tried, I never was the little girl that had dreams about her wedding. For the most part, I just wanted the major stakeholders to be happy. Let everyone enjoy themselves and have money after the wedding.
Therefore, when the situation arose that warranted a privately intimate wedding, it wasn’t much of a bother to adjust because the picture of happiness I had did not warrant anything happening.
However, as much as I never thought any preconceived ideas of what my wedding would look like, I knew what it wasn’t going to look like. And for the life of me, it was not that my husband and I would have a major issue with consummating our marriage (properly) for months!
The issue is called Vaginismus and no, I’m not ashamed of it so please don’t help me to be ashamed of what I’m not ashamed of. Vaginismus is more of a mental condition than it is a physical one. So imagine my surprise when the honeymoon I had pictured was laden with pain, tears and fatigue! Oh I cried! I cried so hard! Because we had fought to get to where we were! People were congratulating us and we were grateful but what was this?
The pain? Excruciating raised to a power of 1000! I was in pain! Intense, serious and body shaking pain. My husband hurt from watching me writhe in pain. What was a lubricant? What didn’t we try?
A few weeks after, nothing had happened and I was very tired of hearing “just close your eyes…” “you’re imagining the pain…” “it’s not that hard.”
I went to a gynaecologist at Iwaya…
To be continued tomorrow because tears have filled my eyes now
On the 26th of January, exactly one month after our wedding, I decided to seek medical help. I drove myself to the hospital at Iwaya, Yaba. This was my first ever gynecologist visit.
I explained to a general physician first and then I was referred to the CMD of the hospital. I remember walking in head down in shame, as if I brought it upon myself. That part does not work again sha.
I sat in front of this thick man with no name card or plaque in sight. Not on his door, table, or overall, I should have walked away but I did not because I did not even know what to expect.
I explained everything to him, in between tears. I literally felt I could not do anything, no matter how much my husband encouraged me. “How long did you people date for?” he asked almost eyeing me. “2 years and 8 months.” I answered. “So you people dated for close to three years and you didn’t have sex?” Now he was irritated. “No, we didn’t.” I was smiling, trying to change the topic. “So the rest of us are sinners? Abi? Look at it now? Three years, no sex?” His words felt like a dagger in my heart because at the time, I was already asking God why He asked that we remain sexually pure if the process of deflowering was this painful. This man asked me almost five times if I’m sure I’m a virgin. I answered that I clearly am. Except for the sexual abuse that happened when I was a child which would have obviously sponsored that reality!
He went ahead to minimize everything I said. And then asked me to lay on the examination table. After checking the first time, the guy said there’s a seal than can easily be removed with his fingers. Brethren, those were the worst three minutes of my life. I fell from the table as I ran from this pain. The pain was about to numb my ears and my feet. I screamed but it came out as muffled groans because tears poured too much. The matron he had sent for had to shout at him to stop!
I couldn’t drive home after than incident. I had to call my husband to come get me. Tears didn’t stop for almost an hour. I kept crying and crying!
At that point I vowed to encourage premarital sex but…
As we drove home from that silly doctor, I was very quiet. The tears did not stop. At this time, I wasn’t trying to cry. My body just was exhaling. My body knew it had been violated. My husband would have gone to bring the place down but the issue at hand was more serious to me than getting the idiot to pay.
He had told us to try that night but we could not. We could not even try that week. I bled for about two days too. At this point, I was sure that I was going to be an ambassador for premarital sex! God had deceived me, I was going to get Him back!
Then I called my aunty. She’s a top consultant in Ibadan and long story short, we were in Ibadan, University College Hospital, the next week.
The professor we saw? Oh what an amazing man!!!! He cried with me, he consoled me, when it was time to examine me, he encouraged me when I hesitated a couple of times. I started crying on the examination table without anyone touching me. After examination, he prescribed Lidocaine (a numbing lubricant) and said we should try but if nothing happened, the surgery would be carried out.
Thursday that week, I was in UCH for a surgery! I was completely put under. I didn’t even know when I slept off. They called it digital dilation. My husband was a rock! A complete support and Aunty D too! My mum could hardly sleep or breathe, oh I don’t want to go into my mum’s reaction! It’s too much! The woman was literally broken.
Anyway, brethren, after spending the little we spent and the time, and my body being knocked out for two weeks after that surgery. I was dizzy for two weeks non stop.
The. Surgery. Did. Not. Work! At this point, I lay on the bed and asked God what I had done to deserve this pain? Shebi if it was just difficult, it would have been different. The pain was completely beyond me! It would reverberate underneath my feet almost numb my ears! It wasn’t a cute pain or a bearable pain!
The professor had told us that if the surgery did not work, we were to return for a procedure where I’ll be numbed waist down and then we try in view of professionals! Samuel swore that it will never be him or his wife! So that was a no-go area!
When we returned to our base, we both decided to leave it. We were tired. As in I was very tired and we were barely two months into the marriage.
What was worse? I hadn’t even asked God anything. Everything we had done up until that point, we did with our logical calculation. I didn’t even consider God. I didn’t ask if it was His will, I became Uzzah and ran to help God. I didn’t realize what I’d done until HS and I had a conversation and He chided me gently. I cried.
Aunty D and the Professor kept calling to find out the progress we had made and I had to gently tell her to leave it be. My mental health had taken such a hit that I could not even have anyone constantly checking on us.
My husband and I decided to enjoy each other. Ladies and gentlemen, penetrative sex is not the only sex in the world. It’s not. So rest very well. I have never and will never support masturbation but your husband can familiarize himself with you. Hiding can’t work. Open up and let the exploration begin.
We needed to unlearn the expectation that penetrative sex was the ultimate goal, it is not. Sexual satisfaction is. Find what works for you and do it well.
Then came a program called “Sex, Love and Goop” on Netflix. There were many things I did not agree with in that documentary but our breakthrough came through a procedure on the show; Calculated breathing.
I realized that what my body was doing was natural. It was preventing me from an “anti-body” and the reflex action was to close up. When I consciously take calculated breaths before we begin, I allow my body to relax. I also began to have conversations with my mind “This is good for me. This is good for us. He is one of us now.” In. Out. In again. Out again. Slight pain. In. Out. Deeper. In. Out.
Like that, we. won. Whoosh! God! The first time, it still hurt but it was bearable. The second time, the pain was more bearable and like that, Jesus got the victory.
Relax. Rest. Enjoy yourselves. There’s more to marriage than sex. Trust me. By the time you get the victory, sex will be an added bonus. You can be intimate without penetrative sex.
Here are some lessons that I got from the situation:
1) Marriage is warfare. It makes no scriptural sense that those who have preserved themselves, with the help of God, for marriage should find that much pain before they derive pleasure. Some people are still stuck there even after children. It cannot be God’s promise. This is why prayer with a lot of thanksgiving is something no marriage should scrimp on. Please pray so much and so well and make sure your thanksgiving is more than your prayer point. It is warfare that has already been won.
2) When something is beyond you, give it to the Person beyond life and leave it there. Vaginismus is not your fault. You didn’t cause it. Therefore, rest!
3) The mind can be retrained. Your body has “prevented” you from sex all your life. Therefore, mild exercise like calculated breathing, kegel exercises and the likes will help retrain your mind.
4) Sometimes, there may be something else you need to work on. In our case, there was an hidden issue on my husband’s part. We spent almost a month detangling and removing and in two weeks after all was settled, we had a breakthrough. I’m not saying you should become a paranoid CIA agent. I cried out to God one day in tiredness and asked Him to show us if we had anything that sponsored the delay. Immediately after that Hannah like prayer, things began to unfold. Please PRAY!!!
5) God never wastes situations. The amount of couples that have been saved since the 27th of this month is such a miracle. One day, God told me that He walked me down this path because He needed someone to deliver His babies! So I’m not just talking, angels are backing me up! There is purpose in your pain, child of God! If all you see is your pain, you will lose sight of God.
Ghanaian Singer, Shatta Wale has slammed Rema over a social media post the MAVIN artiste shared.
Rema is set to land in Ghana tomorrow for a show and he revealed that the minute he touches down, he will have 10 Ghanaian girls as welcome gift.
Shatta Wale took offense at Rema’s statement and he turned to prime ‘John Terry’ as he defended his country with honor by telling Rema to stop spitting on the dignity of Ghanaians.
Shatta wrote ;
Using Ghanaian ladies in such a comment is like you spiting on the dignity of Ghanaians …
Whaaaa see total disrespect to our Ghanaian women…Don’t you have money to go for a massage ? Come chop cuz u alone get D*ck..Nonesense tweet .all in the name of am a star
The exes of Nollywood actors and best friends, Alex Ekubo and IK Ogbonna, have got people talking after they were spotted together in Lagos.
Fancy Acholonu who recently called off her engagement to popular Nollywood actor, Alex Ekubo was spotted with Ik Ogbonna’s ex-wife, Sonia at the Eko Atlantic area of Lagos state.
Sharing photos and videos from their link up on their respective social media pages, the duo captioned it, “Omo see “Oyinbo” babes in Naija o lol Xoxo Sonia x Fancy”.
Watch video below,
See how Nigerians reacted to the link up below,
An Instagram follower @fashiondoctor19 wrote, “This link up be like revenge and pepper link up”.
@ngo.zee, “Ex wives meet and greet … I’m curious to know their topic of discussion”.
@therealjokegold, “This beautiful ladies know something we don’t ”.
@i_zebz, “What In the chaos is this? if them start to talk, there will be fire everywhere”.
Nollywood actress and filmmaker, Shan George, has berated people who publicize their acts of giving.
Taking to her Instagram stories on Wednesday, December 29th, the thespian noted that she has no respect for people who announce it when they help the needy.
According to her, charity and altruistic acts should be done secretly without anyone knowing.
“Abeg feel free to reason am as you like oo, as for me I have no single respect for anyone who doesn’t keep their cameras at home while helping the needy”, she wrote.
See her post below,
In other news, reality Tv star, Natacha Akide a.k.a Tacha has issued a disclaimer to those expecting her to grant financial favors to people because other celebrities do.
The former BBNaija housemate made this submission in a tweet shared via her verified Twitter account on Tuesday, March 2.
According to her, people have different flows and streams of income, in the same vein, people also have different financial commitments.
The 25-year-old entrepreneur stated emphatically that people should not expect her to give generously and go beyond her financial capacity because she wants to imitate other celebrities. In her defense, she said they don’t make their money the way she makes hers.
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