A Lady has taken to her social media page to advise that it is often dangerous when a woman marries down (financially) because men’s ego are fragile and in most cases, their insecurities would cause more harm than good.

According to the lady, she ignored her relatives’ advice and warnings and went ahead to marry a man she earns more than but like her family had predicted, it was a wrong decision.

She revealed that only 6 months in, she said the man wanted her to fund his projects and expected her to give him loans. She also said he took offense because she wanted him to double his career steps rather than live off her.

She added that abuse started then and when she chose she couldn’t take it anymore and had to leave, he employed emotional blackmail.

Read her post below ;

I was young and free. Just before clocking 30 and dating this guy I thought the world of. I earned like 5-10 times as much as he did. He wanted us to be married. It felt great and right only that some older people said No. Reason? I earned way higher.

It made no sense at the time. What did earning capacity have to do with love. Dad said you are even more ambitious and driven with more at your disposal. Don’t do it!. I thought it was just cheap talk.

I stuck to my guns. It was going to be him or nothing else. Love was enough. It didn’t take 6 months before all they said came to life before my eyes. He wanted me to give money for his projects. He wanted loans. I wasn’t willing to do so and it became war.

Verbal and emotional abuse ensued. He cursed me to no end. I was acting too big or thought I was. I wasn’t a supportive lover etc. It went on until I couldn’t take it anymore. Then it got worse. How dare I walk away from the relationship and his love?

The emotional blackmail and insults. It took a while to get over such a person and all because I wanted him to double his own career goals and steps rather than live off me.

Over the years after, I learnt a lesson. Money is the no 1 reason for divorces and who brings in more changes the dynamics of relationships. If a woman does, this has to be discussed headlong and not assume the relationship will be like any or every other.

It won’t be like every other relationship and it’s even different if the woman starts to earn more in a marriage than before marriage. The male ego is very fragile and the freedom money gives a woman may come off as a threat even if unintended.

A gentleman must understand this and be prepared to navigate the relationship away from a basic traditional one where the man brings in the bacon. It is often dangerous when a woman marries down because the man’s once-hidden insecurities come up and fight .

That is when you see unabridged verbal, emotional and sometimes physical abuse. Then the guilt tripping, blackmail, manipulation etc. Only mature and secure men thrive well when a woman brings more into a relationship from the outset. This cuts across races.

A man expected to lead a family in a traditional sense must understand that his leadership isn’t only from money but support, care, direction and guidance he brings as long as he’s not lazy.He only earns less which isn’t a crime.

Most women want their men to step up in all areas esp once married.

It helps the woman respect him and view him as a leader for real. If your woman earns more, no problem but don’t be docile or abusive to her. That marks doomsday to your relationship. Step up. Take another course. Seek more openings. Help more domestically.

But don’t be stagnant neither ignore the power dynamics and shifts that come with a non- traditional, non-binary romantic relationship. Things will be different for you.

A Nigerian man has taken to his social media page to celebrate his Wife who stood by him when he had nothing and also helped in supporting his dreams.

According to Mazi Muffasa, he met his wife when he was living in a one-room apartment and although his Wife was 5 years older, she didn’t listen to her friend’s warning about “Nigerian men” as she decided to bring him to the US where his life changed forever.

They have now been married for 3 years and he wrote that he owns his own Trucking company and he can literally afford his cravings and anything he wants, all because of his wife.

Read his lengthy post below ;

I met my wife when I had nothing, I was making 50k as a Production manager, freelancing for Nollywood producers, lived in a one room apartment somewhere in Ajangbadi, my wife’s from the U.S but there’s something that attracted her to me, we kicked off the relationship.

While her friends warned her bout dealing with a Nigerian man, she told em she don’t care that she sees something in me and that my environment held me back and she would really love to help me, she was 5 years older than me, she didn’t care, when she went back to the U.S.

We kept in touch, talked and she always made sure to visit me twice every year, 3years into the relationship she decided to file my papers so I can move to the states with her, in April 2017 she filed my papers, by November 2017, I has my visa.

By December 2017 I was in the United States, arriving with a fiancee visa had to get married and readjust status, all which my wife funded, it took 8months for me to get my work visa, all through these months, my wife supported me and made sure I lacked nothing.

At a point I was frustrated and depressed waiting on my papers, but she would always put me in high spirits, she never failed to share whatever she made from her business with me, even without me asking her a cent, she would buy me clothes and shoes, every and anything I wanted.

Fast forward October 2018 I got my work permit and proceeded to get a Job at Nissan Car Manufacturing company, November 2018 I bought my wife a brand new civic, because she sold her car to finance my relocation to the U.S.

January 2019 I decided to change jobs and delve into logistics, quiting my job at Nissan, I put my money and time into acquiring a CDL which costed 7000$, my wife stepped in that period and took care of the Bills and helped me achieve that goal.

I started driving trucks and making more than my wife, I decided to move her hair styling business out of our living room, I bought her a she shed and built her a front porch myself, and equipped it with all she needs.

2021, I quit working as a company driver and decided to buy my own Truck and start my own trucking business and as soon as I told my wife that move, the next day she came out with 5,000$ in cash to support me and I purchased my first Tractor Trailer.

3 months into driving as an Owner Operator, I bought my wife an SUV I’m August, and asked her what she wanted for her birthday, which was November 7, she said she wanted to get a degree, I have her enrolled in school, paying her school fees to get it.

My wife and I have supported each others dreams, and we’ve been together for 8years, married for 3, she took a chance on me and with faith and having her behind me I was able to achieve so much in so little time, I’ve only been in the U.S for 3 and half years.

A woman who loves and trusts you without a doubt will always support you, have your back and elevate you. I’m so fking lucky to have met my wife, my fellow men do not feel less than a man having a woman you love support you, that’s why she’s your better half.

Me and my wife has never had financial issues, she’s a signatory to my checking and business accounts, I don’t care how much she makes, even as much as I make more than her she always sends me money every now and then without me asking.

Moral of my thread, A woman can make a man as much as a man can make a woman, when you love someone you do any and everything for them…

Incase y’all wonder how much I’ve grown in just 3 and half years being in the U.S, I own my own Trucking company and I can literally afford my cravings and anything I want, all because of my wife.

Award-winning Nigerian singer, Davido has embarked on a quest to test the degree of love his fans/friends have for him.

In a post he shared on his Instagram Story, he joked that he has helped many people through his “we rise by lifting others” philosophy and because of this, he hinted that he wants a million naira each from his friends.

In his words ;

We rise by lifting others yeah, i have been rising by lifting others for the past 100 years. So I want to know who my real friends are, all my friends one one million naira (If you no send your own, you outta here)

See the video below ;

An officer of the special police constabularies of the Nigeria Police Force, Nwanebionuma Livinus has publicly cried out over the non-payment of their stipends for one year.

The constabulary officers were engaged by the federal government through the force to help in the administration’s community policing agenda.

The ‘officer of the law’  wrote on his Facebook page.

“We are working hard no payment but how can a man with family will work without payment for one year now please and please government do something for we to happy in this work for we to move forward in Jesus name amen and amen.