34-year-old Gennevieve Vaillancourt from Ontario, Canada, has spoken out about her struggle with accepting her facial hair.
Vaillancourt says she spent years desperately trying to hide her facial hair, but she’s now decided to let her beard grow and feels more confident than she has in the past.
According to her, she started growing hair around her chin and upper lip from the age of 16, and was later diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome, which caused the excessive facial hair growth.
She says she had to shave every day, but on the second day after shaving the hair was already growing back.
“I was so ashamed of my beard. I was bullied through school because of it and kids would tell me to shave or asked if I knew how to. When I received my PCOS diagnosis, I felt relieved to have something to research and to know there was a reason why these things were happening to me.” She said.
Speaking further, she said,
“I also felt the loss of hope at the thought of not being able to be a mum in the future because it is one of the top causes of infertility in women Another symptom was weight gain and of course, the growth of facial hair. PCOS made me want to hide and I felt robbed of my femininity.”
The mother of one said it was after the birth of her son, Duncan, who is now three years old, that she decided to embrace her look, to be an example to him about self-love. She revealed that she began to experiment with letting her facial hair grow during the pandemic.
“I wanted to lead by example… I couldn’t teach him to love every part of himself if I wasn’t doing the same.” she said.
She began to share photos of her beard online, which helped her confidence to grow, until she was finally inspired to go out in the world as a bearded woman by an interaction with her family.
In her words,
“As soon as my facial hair started to grow when I was 16, I knew that it would eventually become a full beard and I knew that I wanted to get to a place where I was brave enough to grow it out and wear it in public ‘I just needed to learn some tools to be able to do that. The main turning point for me was when I ran into one of my aunts while I was waiting in the car outside of the supermarket.
“I hadn’t shaved in probably about three days and I gave her a warning that I had my beard and she told my uncle not to come over because he “didn’t need to see this”. I saw my aunt’s shame, but it also made me realise that I deserve to be seen! This really fueled me to take the leap to be seen. I have been growing my beard out since September 2021.I have been able to accept myself for who I am and can walk around in public with my beard with confidence
“Surprisingly, since fully growing out my beard I haven’t faced any backlash or bullying. It’s obvious that I am a woman, so I could see the confusion on people’s faces. I was watching them go through a whole process of trying to understand. All of the positive experiences I have had since showing off my beard have spurred me on to keep going.
I feel more confident than I have ever felt with my beard. When I wasn’t able to be my true self and I was hiding away, I was filled with so much anxiety. Showing off my beard has been liberating.”
