Linda Ikeji in a long post on her Blog has revealed that her baby daddy is indeed Sholaye Jeremi.

Read her post below;

Two days before my 38th birthday on September 17th, I welcomed my first child, my son, Jayce. I look at him and I wonder why I waited so long to have a child. I’ve never known love like this. I literally have tears in my eyes every time I look at him. I can’t believe he came out of me. He is by far my greatest blessing and I’m looking forward to navigating him through life!

Linda Ikeji confirms Sholaye Jeremi

Now to the reason why you are reading this. I argued with myself for a long time whether to put this out or not…and finally decided it was a story I wanted to share. I’ve always been open about my life but I’m sharing details about my personal life mostly because of the girls who look up to me. The girls I have mentored, mentoring right now and plan to mentor in the future. I’m very particular about our young girls and I have personally tried over the years to be an example in some way; tried to teach these girls how to fight for their dreams, how to live right and do right and then I go and have a child out of wedlock and that must be a little confusing to some of them and especially with so many untruthful stuff out there about me. The most hilarious is that I had a child for a married man. Lol. Here’s my answer to that! The married man that I will sleep with has not yet been born. If he’s been born, he will die, be buried, rise and die again before he will lay with me. I don’t do married men. The father of my child is a single man and his name is Sholaye Jeremi. To be honest, at some point I thought he was my final bus stop but you know how life happens…lol. Unfortunately he and I are a completely closed chapter. Sadly for our son Jayce, it’s the kind of chapter that can’t ever be opened again.

One of the things many people have asked me is how I met this man because we don’t run in the same circle. Well, I met him 3 years ago at Wheatbaker Restaurant in Ikoyi in December 2015 shortly after I moved to my home in Banana Island, Ikoyi. It was a day after Christmas and I was having dinner with friends when he walked in. He saw me and the rest is history. He claimed at the time that he had never heard of me which was seriously a turn-on for me because up until then I’d only been meeting men who behaved like fans. At the time we met, I was 35 and he was 37 and I’d been single for nearly 4 years. I was definitely searching and I fell in love almost immediately and so we became an item.

At the time I met him he lived in a 3-bedroom flat at what used to be 5th roundabout in Lekki after Mobil. I used to drive for almost two hours in traffic from my house to go see him. Most of the time, I carried my laptop to his home to enable me to work and at the same time spend the whole day with him.

It was a whirlwind romance. He was the funniest and most romantic guy I’d met up until that point, so it was easy to fall in love and I truly believed the feeling was mutual. A few weeks after we met, it seemed like we were planning a future together. This man was already calling me Linda Ikeji Jeremi and making all these plans but then just like that, it was over between us. I went from waking up every morning to love text messages from him to no more calls. I was just thanking God for finally sending me my own man when all of a sudden we were no longer talking to each other. Later he would tell me what scared him off. My public life. He claims he’s a private business man and didn’t want the attention being with me would bring to him and I told him I understood and we went our separate ways. We tried to get back together in 2016 but it didn’t work out so much so we separated again but stayed in touch (mostly him to be honest), stayed friends and that was how our back and forth started.

Linda Ikeji confirms Sholaye Jeremi

By mid-2017, we were both still single and we started seeing each other again quietly. There were times it was very intense and we talked about a future together, and there were times that I couldn’t figure out what exactly I was doing with this guy. We were not suited for each other. Totally different lifestyles. And there was the problem of my fame. I walked away from this man a million times and he came after me a million and one times. No matter how much I pushed him away, he kept coming back and me, because I couldn’t find anyone else, I kept going back. Lol. So I was basically going back to my ex because I couldn’t find anyone else. *sigh*.

Then I fell pregnant. It wasn’t planned, it just happened; though we talked about having a child together just two months before I fell pregnant. He said something about putting a billionaire baby inside me and I remember jokingly telling him that I’m also a billionaire so our child was going to be a billionaire on both side…and we laughed. But after I fell pregnant, things became extremely weird between us. If I tried to explain what happened, I wouldn’t be able to because it was confusing to me. We went from talking about the pregnancy and being okay with it; he even suggested I go to Dubai for my pre-natals as he didn’t trust doctors in Nigeria, to literally not talking to each other anymore. Around when I was about three months pregnant, he did come to see my parents and actually became very cool with my dad. They were literally exchanging Whatsapp messages every day. He later agreed to a traditional wedding which he didn’t follow through and then he switched. He began to treat me with so much hate and aggression that I and my family had to cut him off completely.

To be honest if anybody had told me when we met three years ago, considering how deeply we cared for each other that I would fall pregnant two years later and he would completely turn his back on me for most part of my pregnancy, I never would have believed it but that’s what happened. I had to draw strength from myself, my family and close friends.

And Jayce…oh my son Jayce, he was my biggest strength. It was almost as if he knew his dad was acting up so he came through for his mum. He was gentle with me when I was carrying him. I had an extremely easy pregnancy. I pushed him out under 3 mins and was in the labour room for less than 30 minutes. And then my snapback was amazing. Three weeks later, it was almost as if I’d never been pregnant. Jayce was my soldier when his dad turned his back.

But still, I have absolutely no iota of regret meeting Sholaye. Gosh, have you seen Jayce? How can I regret that? God doesn’t make mistakes. If you believe that you’re always led by God like I believe then I have to believe that God led me to this man for whatever reasons best known to Him. I thought God sent him as my life partner but I guess He just used him as a vessel for my greatest blessing. Now his part in my story is over. I know when to put my hands up and surrender. That God brought someone significant into your life doesn’t mean they are supposed to follow you throughout your life’s journey. We should learn to know when people’s part in our story is over. Don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers, just let them go and know that if God meant for you to have them in your life, He would have given them to you. Sometimes people just come to serve a purpose in your life and are not meant to stay and there’s no point holding on to them. This one is done and dusted. It’s just Jayce and I now moving forward and I know life will be beautiful for us.

Being a single mum wasn’t the dream I had for myself; I’d prayed for the kind of happy home my parents built for us (they’ve been together for 40 years). Nothing is more important to me than family. For years I’d hammered on how much I was looking forward to getting married, having children and building my own family and I believed God was going to come through for me on that one, but I have come to understand that we have no control over what life throws at us no matter how much we plan, pray, or work. And we also have no control over the actions of other people towards us. One of the things I have learnt in my life’s journey is that your idea of how life should go might be different from the way life actually goes. It’s called Life Happening. Sometimes it unfolds into something we never dreamed of but because we don’t recognize the route we find ourselves on our journey through life, doesn’t mean God won’t get us to our destination. Remember, an uncertain chapter doesn’t ruin the whole book. Life will happen whether we are ready or not. All we can do is keep our heads up and keep moving.

Family and close friends told me I owed no one any explanation about the circumstances that led to the birth of my son, but I knew without writing this, I could never stand in front of the young girls who look up to me and talk to them again. I could never go on my secondary school tour and speak with these girls again about living right and doing right. I would always feel like I have no moral right to do so. I went to 15 secondary schools in 2017 and talking to those young impressionable girls has been one of the highlights of my life. I cancelled this year’s tour because I was pregnant and I haven’t made any preparations for next year’s tour because I wanted to set things right first.

I have so many plans for young girls next year and in the coming years with the Selfmade finance and mentorship projects with international collaborations, so this was important for me to do, to explain myself to the young girls who look up to me and feel disappointed that I got pregnant and had a baby out of wedlock. For years, I have preached decency, morality and uprightness and despite what happened to me, I mean it from the bottom of my heart. That should be the only way to live. That’s the only way I live. Don’t ever compromise your values. With this, I was led by my heart and my clock ticking and even though I have no regrets, I’m sorry if I let any of you ladies down by the decision I made, and I hope you learn from my experience. I hope you do better than I did. The ideal thing would be to find a man you love, who loves you back and gives you stability, get married, have kids and raise a family, not being a single mum or a baby mama. I was 37 years old at the time I conceived and if I want to be honest, my age played a role in me allowing myself to be pregnant out of wedlock. I don’t want to be having kids in my 40s or struggling with fertility later in life. This wasn’t the plan but like I said before, life happens. You just have to find a way to make the best of what life throws at you. And so for any young girl this means anything to, I am truly sorry. I am not sorry I had Jayce, I’m just sorry I didn’t go about it the right way.

But you know, despite this crazy love experience, I still believe in love and I believe in happy endings and I can’t wait to one day, God willing, have my fairy tale ending. The father of my child is the only man I’ve given a chance to in 6 years. Lol. I swear. I’m not really a relationship kind of girl. I’m more a career girl. I can go for years without a man. I’m one of those women who don’t need a man to validate their existence but biko, I’ve done the single life enough in the past…lol… going forward I’m looking forward to giving someone else a chance and try this love thing again. I was raised in a happy 2-parents’ home and that’s what I want for Jayce. So I hope I meet a great guy soon until then I’m enjoying motherhood. It rocks! Life has never been more beautiful!

I’d also like to address a few other issues. Number one is this celibacy issue. So many people have trolled me over it and I’d like to correct the misunderstanding. I have never ever in my life said people shouldn’t have sex before marriage. NEVER EVER have I said that. I have even argued with quite a few people that it is not feasible in this day and age. What I have always said and I maintain till today is; Do not ever sleep with men for money because any woman with a brain and determination can get her own money herself. And there’s nothing sweeter than your own money. I am 38 years old and I recently bought a N100million+ car; what the heck do you need to be sleeping with a man for? For designer bags, first class tickets and luxury holidays? GTFOH with sleeping with a man for rent money! You can give yourself all that and more if you apply yourself, fight for your dream and work your butt off. Men don’t have the exclusive right to create wealth; women can also create wealth. Money is not male. Wealth is not male. Success is not male. We women just need to believe in ourselves more and get off our butts and stop relying on our looks and charm instead of our brain, mind, will, and our God given talent/gift. We can be rich, we can be successful, we can break barriers, do what was formerly termed impossible, do what men can do, be CEOs of conglomerates and billionaires without ever having to lie on our backs. Please ladies, we are powerful beyond measure and can do anything and be anything we want to be.

The other thing I’ve always said is; do not sleep around with multiple men who just use your body for their pleasure; that is; too many one night stands, casual sex, many sex partners in a short period of time all in the name of relationships. Your body deserves better. I feel sex should only happen when you’re in a loving, committed relationship with someone you love. I was celibate for many years until I met my son’s father and fell in love. And instead of increasing my body count, I just went back to the same eggplant…lol. My mistake was I should have walked away when the relationship became a waste…lol… but then again, Jayce wouldn’t be here today if I had. So really, there’s nothing that I have preached that I didn’t practice. So you guys stop trolling me over this abeg! Lol.

Thank you for reading and thank you for your understanding.

Love and kisses to you and yours

Hugs

Linda

47 COMMENTS

  1. I just fell in love with you through this write up.God we see you thorough. He will take care of you and your baby.I never read you page before but enfort I we be one of your fans.

  2. I have always believed in you and will continue to stand by you… Even when people were talking trash about you. I still defended you in ur absent. I just love you like that. My love to Jayce. From your secret admirer

  3. Thank you so much for your apology Linda,the story is quite touching.we all makes mistakes at one time or the other in life,there is nothing like a perfect person on earth.absolute perfection is only when we meet Christ Jesus face to face in heaven.
    Besides,sometimes things we never planned for happened to us.it is not about the mistake you made in life,it’s about the lessons you learned from the mistakes you’ve made ok. Again,if God has not judged you,nobody has the right to judge you ,and if God has not condemned you,no one can condemn you.
    Move on with your life and do what God assigned you to do,do not be discouraged by anything,remember people are entitled to their own opinions,and some will always see everything wrong about your personality whether good or bad,yet it is what God says about you that matters in life.
    I pray that God grant you your own very heart desires and give you your expected end in life.

  4. I Love your guts dear and you are indeed a fighter. I’ve learnt alot from this write up. Your story is clear and genuine. I believe you. Did I mentioned that your son is adorable. Yes, he is….

  5. I just love this lady, down to earth and truthful. God bless your heart. You will definitely find love again in the rarest place.

  6. Thumbs up bae! U did the right thing from my thought.u owe no one any explanation so long as u are happy with your life joor. I will be great like u.

  7. Thumbs up bae! U did the right thing from my thought.u owe no one any explanation so long as u are happy with your life joor. I will be great like u. .

  8. OMG,Linda you touched me so much with these write up but you know what you are a Heroine… I love your spirit and morals… How i wish i can see you to just take a shot with you someday…tears can’t stop running through my cheeks. God guide and protect you and your son as always ijn…Amen! Lots of Love from me to you my role model

  9. You did the right thing,and a reasonable woman will not troll you do this,you could have quietly aborted the pregnancy back then but you chose to be strong, now you have your biggest blessing with you. I appreciate you for your strength and wisdom. Kisses..

  10. Congratulations once more ma ,n if it makes u feel any better I have never thought less of u even when some who think they are perfect keeps on pouring out hurtful words of which I see as a sign of stupidity.you still inspire me to want to achieve greatness , God bless you n that cute little man of yours n I pray all your dreams come through n remember God make all things perfect in his own time.love ya 😍 😍

  11. Woww,interesting peice,sis Linda..all you did was out of love,if it wasn’t for love u wudnt have gone back to the relationship the second time..everything happens for a purpose,having jayce was for a purpose…May God bless and keep you both.the right man will surface and when he does,every other thing will be history…God bless you..

  12. Madam,am sorry for all you went through but never mind because life struggles is only for the brave and courageous one’s like you.

  13. Awwwn… What a mind-blowing write-up MA.
    From my Observation MA, u did the right thing.
    Godbless u for being an Inspiration to the single girls/upcoming Mothers.
    You’re indeed, a blessing to our generation.
    Godbless u and baby Jayce!

  14. Nice one mummy jayce, you owe no one an explanation on how to live your life. Am inspired by your words, thanks and jayce is so handsome.

  15. I really enjoyed reading your write up, especially were you said some people come into our lives for a particular purpose….and I love your sincerity… Your encouraging words…. May the lord bless u with the man that deserves u

  16. Sweet story, congratulations on the birth of your boy. But I think hearing his side of the story will complete the matter. And if you know you know. You and your baby daddy are connected for life, even when you find and meet your Prince Charming and end up marrying him. He will always be a part of your life and your son’s life. Sometimes indirectly that is if you allow bitterness or resentment of him take the better part of your friendship with him. Then wait till your son is grown, like when he is a teenager that’s if he starts late. Just pray it doesn’t happen. He may want his dad so much that it may make you uncomfortable. Which is why most times it’s preferable to marry or have a sweet friendship with your baby daddy from day one, no matter your differences. Just saying, time will sort everything out. It’s not about what we say, do or plan about. God is the final decider of the things to happen in our lives. Good and bad. Good because HE loves us dearly, bad because of our imperfections. It’s garbage in garbage out. HE sees and knows everything. The only ONE that knows us more than we know ourselves.

  17. Well short of words but I would say one good mistake you made.Jayce is the and I pray that he would bring Glory to you always.my dear life’s too short YOLO.just move on like you said no time

  18. Quite thrilled by your story. But thank God you have your baby and and open mind to try new relationships when ever they arise in future.

  19. This write up is very touchy Don’t worry God knows all that is happening now.I know that he or she who laugh last,laugh best.Dont worry you will see the kind of good man God will give you.

  20. This too shall pass and you will have every reason to smile again. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes.I also was disappointed but who am I to judge. You need to be strong for ur son because his happiness comes first. Luv u sis

  21. “Then I fell pregnant It wasn’t planned, it just happened”…Is this the biggest lie of the year?

    Off to Twitter lemme goan see the gial that has being secretly going to one lekki roundabout to suck prick🍆 for the past 3years while preaching to her followers to be celibate……. 😂
    🏃 🏃 🏃

  22. You know all my life linda, this is one the post i took my time to read and of course it was worth it…I must say am proud of you and you are still my role model.You did the right thing.

  23. I feel your pain dear but i believe everything happens for a reason… Jayce will bring everlasting happiness to u… The stupid man don’t deserve to have u. I love u Linda and pls let everything go. What is yours, will surly find it way to you… I believe God’s time is the best… We cannot ask God for Meat and he give us stone, God knows what we want and i know that u will have the happy life u have always prayed for..Amen…love u

  24. Your son will love you unconditionally unlike the men. Jayce will make you proud and will never desert you. He is cute,take care of him and yourself. You cannot get 2-0 jor

  25. Love is like a butterfly, it perches wherever it wants too.
    Love is like a lion, it attacks whoever it wants too.
    Love is like an elephant.no matter how much you try, it can not be moved nor resisted!….
    Love is love!…
    There is nothing like it!.

    A poem from me to you from an honest heart.

  26. May God bless u and the baby.But Mark my word his father will soon realise his mistake. Pls give him a little time for the sake of ur son . Some men are like that they are off and on pls my darling l don’t want u to go from one man to another they are all the same. Some May have headache the other one stomach pain.But at first u will think they are hero. So dear the devil u know is better than the one u don’t know.He did not say the baby is not his. Immediately u gave birth he took to his Twitter to inform the world that he is the father of the baby. But some Nigerians that drink pardon on anothe people’s headache started talking rubbish. Pls is ur life lam happy for u stay calm and be her ur son and pls leave his father’s space for him God will complete the work he has started in ur life.

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