“My name is Camilla, a 30-year-old woman. I have been married for six years with one kid but presently, I am not enjoying my marriage.

My husband, Harry, is really making me regret agreeing to marry him ahead of Efosa, my ex-boyfriend who also wanted to marry me.

I saw Harry more of a gentleman because he was always calm in everything he does while Efosa was the hypersensitive type, always out for one adventure or the other.

Efosa was not ready for marriage just yet and wanted me to wait for two more years while at 26, I was due for marriage especially as my family was on my neck.

What Harry lacked in bed, Efosa was the bomb and he always got the better of me when it comes to sex.

While Harry is meticulous and likes to put things in proper perspectives, Efosa was always ready for anything. In fact, we could have sex every day for a month and he would not be tired but with my husband, sex has never been a priority for him.

In the first year of our marriage, sleeping with my husband was just manageable where we had sex on an average of three times a week but in the past two years, it has plummeted so much that it takes a miracle for us to have sex once in three months.

Anytime I try to seduce him, he would complain of tiredness, not being in the mood or just plainly not interested. We have gone six months without sex and he does not see anything wrong in that.

He keeps telling me that while he is busy trying to put food on the table and take care of the bills, all I care about is sex.

It is not as if I do not understand how things are in the country but I am a woman and just as he tries to meet the needs of the family, my emotional needs should be taken care of as well.

I am getting tempted to get a man to do what my husband has refused to do and no one should blame me.

Camilla.”

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204 COMMENTS

  13. u may suffer forever if u make rushing decisions,,,learn to be abit patient,,it pains but oneday it ll pay u fruitfull y,,,,y think abt ur ex,,good enough u said an ex,meaning an old times,,,focus gal

  15. My dear there is no advice for you just be sensitive, reason up and don’t forget Gods word..stick to your husband keep watch over him and never stop praying so it shall be well … What I can tell you is your husband is your most treasuries in life for the bible says marriage is a life time process so stick to it …it part of the process that you need to go through ..stay blessed dear

  19. Hmmm I can’t think far but to the level of my thought something is wrong somewhere that u all shud sit n talk abt if he says all the time that he want to put food on the table,then assist him by doing something to easy stress on ur hubby he is urs n urs forever if he breaks down u both will suffer so assist. 21st century a mans salary can never be enough for the home but it depends Don’t think of getting another man but explain to him ,pray n believe God .wish all the best .

  22. Baby…. My mum thought me that,” d devil u know is better than d angel u don’t “.

    What’s d assurance that ur ” temptation-satisfying” dream guy u want 2 meet outside won’t possess some worse attitude?

    Well my advice 4 u is 2 knw his reason. Azin his TRUE REASON. If he doesn’t want d marriage 2 stand again, let him free u so as 2 make a responsible choice.

  23. Are u sure u didn’t take the bomb style frm ur ex to ur husband who’s probably no where near being a bomb and now u can’t cope just as he can’t cope with u. Stop all these comparison manage with ur husband and break free frm wot u learn frm ur ex pls. Everyone has his/her style. Why get another man to help, dats not right, na food?

  24. “My ex who of course is the bomb in bed” I think that’s just what you want to let us know. So we don hear. And is only God that knows who is guilty between you and your husband.

  27. May God give you the grace to endure because is for better for worse just be praying this prayer point that any woman that has Penetrate ur home with charm God should frustrate the relationship between them

  29. dont worry,,keep disturbing him for sex,,dont allow him concentrate on business,,very soon landlord will appear with a quit notice then you`ll understand that the last thing you need is having sex

  34. Sorry madam u say ur ex is the bomb in bed, abeg shey na atomic bomb? on a more serious note I don’t think you should bring your marriage case to public, coming to social media is like facing the world. if u have any issues in ur marriage take it to the Lord in prayers and then ur pastors.

  36. There is no perfect man anywhere.. However sex in marrige is sacrosanct but if that’s the only thing the man is not good at, u can hire a cucumber to supplement the tombing… Just kidding.. But i guess there is more to this short story cos no matter the engagement of man, he couldn’t have denied sex for that long..madam pls try to reconcile with ur hubby

  37. Selling stolen properties ba, u thieves collects peoples belonging all in d name of seizing it but ends up selling those properties out. God will surely punish u all cos those things ur selling are peoples sweat

  45. Men dont like women that fight them all the times, that reduce their sexual urge, hope u dont do that. Clean yourself and the enviroment, stop comparing him with ur ex. Take it to the Lord in prayer, i wish u the best.

  49. Now,u making it look like u married him Cus of sex,fr yhu to b comparing him to yr ex, u meant to wrk things out with him,try to kw his reasons while he’s denying yhu that…… Dr must b a reason… Mk e no b say all dx sharp girls dun tk over.. shaa mk God epp u

  52. My dear c dis life z all about patience my Dr he myt b doing all diz to test u nd u myt fail d test if u dnt hav patience .pls just watch nd pray. U talking of ur ex u re married nw nd z a new beginning do u tink if u had married ur ex u would hav b happy with him or u getting married was 4 just sex .plz change ur orientation.

  53. Dear the devil can not have ur home !! Because the joy u have does not come from ur husband or from dis earth bt ur joy came from above !!! Have u watched dt movie CALLED WAR ROOM !!! pls do dis will act as a great inspiration for u !! Pray with out season dey earth is dey lords and it’s fullness there of !! Remember God abhors divorce !!

  54. It is well. Do not go out and commit adultery. It is a sin. I rather you rape him than go outside your marriage. But try to do it again with him. Except there Is a woman outside giving him ooo

  55. I blame you I don’t blame him in ur story it shows he never loves u may be because u are desperate or u knew wat u did to make him marry u. Ladies let men make their choices in choosing a wife Dnt force dem in marrying so u won’t regret at last. Ur own WI come

  58. Dear readers, please try and understand her before comment,… It hurt expect you’re not married yet,for your husband to totally lost that positive feeling about you….when you have not given birth to a new born baby or is absence,….. But if your husband is around and something like this happened you think about it,….sex is not food but sex is also including in marriage, madam Pray for your husband, sake advice from elderly people who build a nice home……think about the future forget about your EX,….you’re married so don’t think about your past again, God will see you through

  59. Hmmmmm…..
    U know we are arguing about one issue n a girl called men dogs n rapist saying they are the ones dat loves n needs sex d most… I laughed her n tell her girl,, get marry n after 3 months u come lets talk..
    I do pity all this married women dat do pass through one thing or d other in d hands of their men n u know d highest punishment a married man can gv his wife it’s denying her sex… But I do see those men as heartless people but on d other hand,, d cause can come from d woman…
    Am not there to know what transpired between u n ur man but find out what it is fix it even if it means kneeling down n begging him cos if u end up having affair outside ur marriage n he finds out… Ur name will be something else

  68. Wait I came here to read comments but everybody is saying nonsense about the woman except for itz felistar chy .did u put yourself as a woman in her shoe? Some one said she has not had sex for 5years due to d fact that her man lives abroad come o that story is not dsame with hers cos her husband is around and not touching her for 6months now and another woman asked na food? No be food o but e no dey eat another thing except it’s special sugar cane ….he is probably cheating on her and that’s the truth because of the other woman he now hate his wife I have seen people pass through this situation and even worse but today that situation was today around nothing ,prayer can not do my sister ,dnt go and cheat use this medium to pray I am telling to take advantage of this situation to pray very well and be of good character dnt fight him dnt keep malice with him dnt cheat on him I bet u God will answer your prayers dnt ever compare your husband again remain blessed and stay focused to your God keep loving your husband am telling you he is going to come around in Jesus name Amen no woman will take your place in Jesus name Amen. Peace

  72. Stop spoiling us, some of us re still innocent about sex, don’t expose us to sex, complain to ur pastor or any other close friend, instead of social media like dis, there re issues that has to b place on media for discussion OK!

  75. Go ahead and look for someone to do his job. .. ……… …

    You frustrated idoit nonentity arrogant imbecile. ….. just tell us you have it in mind b4……maybe this is the reason why….. h3 does the Trust u ….he dont want to be infected with virus…..

  80. You didn’t look well you’ve made the mistake so when comes to make love to you don’t allow so rubbish has to stop imagine after getting satisfaction else where he comes home to punish you wicked man but I won’t advise you to also cheat.

  103. Dildo is the solution for you,get them of diferent sizes for yourself,i think this can be consoling you for the main time instead of engaging into extra marital activity and maybe end up getting infected with either HIV or any other sexual transmitted disease……

  104. Dildo is the solution for you,get them of diferent sizes for yourself,i think this can be consoling you for the main time instead of engaging into extra marital activity and maybe end up getting infected with either HIV or any other sexual transmitted disease……

  126. The truth must be said instead of attacking her. How can someone be in the same house and on same bed with her husband and he is always very tired to do his duty for months and people expect the woman to accept that as normal? Please people should at least say the truth for once… This woman’s husband is cheating on her and getting it outside

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