Instagram, the Ikorodu Bois revealed Singer Davido hasn’t given them the N1million naira he promised since January, 2019.
Recall the Nigerian singer promised popular Instagram Mimickers, the Ikorodu Bois one million naira for perfectly mimicking Senator Dino Melaye in hospital bed.
The OBO boss who was impressed after watching the video on Instagram asked that they send their account details for him to transfer one million naira to them.
They made this known via their Instagram Story, during a question and answer session
Governor-Elect of Lagos State, Babajide Sanwo-Olu, has said he will reduce reckless driving in BRT by employing graduates as drivers and adding more dignity to the work.
Sanwo-Olu spoke Saturday during an interactive session with his classmates at the Executive Master of Business Administration class, University of Lagos, 1998/2000 set.
Sanwo’s classmates asked Sanwo-Olu how he would address the recklessness of some of the BRT bus drivers.
He said ;
“The BRT issue is something that has to do with culture. When we take over, by the Grace of God, we will advertise and see if we can employ some of our graduates as drivers.
“What I realised is that apart from the money we will be paying them, which is more than what they are paying an average graduate, we need to very quickly tell our people and encourage ourselves that there is dignity in work. We are going to be paying (them) between N80,000 and N100,000 to come and drive these buses because we expect a lot more decency.
“By the time we get the culture of the drivers’ right, the routes are coming up, by the time we finish the Abule-Egba/Iyana Ipaja/Ikeja route, it will boost the number of BRT (buses).”
Accordingly to Sanwo-Olu, Lagos could one day adopt technology to upgrade and model the BRT ticketing system after what is obtainable in the United Kingdom.
At the dinner, the governor-elect also explained his plans to eradicate gridlock around the cit.
He said his administration hoped to, by the middle of next year, complete the blue rail starting from Okokomaiko, through to Mile 2, Orile and Marina.
“The water will work, BRT buses will work and rail will work,” Sanwo-Olu added.
According to reports surrounding the photos, his mother burst into tears when he arrived inside the court – the singer is being tried on 11 count charges preferred against him by the EFCC.
See photos below as more details will be communicated in due time.
A video making the rounds on social media shows the moment a South African wife tracked down her husband’s side-chick and collected the new car he bought for her.
In the video, the woman can be seen with her entourage who accompanied her to where she met the side-chick and her friend before ordering them out of the car without stress.
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“Nigerian men are better than South African men” – South African Woman
A South African lady simply identified as @keyishoAmi has taken to her social media page to praise Nigerian men for being the best in taking care of women.
Sharing photos of a 2018 Volkswagen her Nigerian husband who is based in Soweto bought for her, she wrote:
When It Comes To Women, Nigerian Men Are The Kings Of taking care of Women in Africa” Nigerian men are greatest men I’ve ever had a relationship with. would love to get married to one if she can find one.
My Nigerian husband just bought me a Nice 2018 Volkswagens I love it.Despite the hatred and distrust by many South Africans on Nigerians living in South Africa.
I’ve been scared of what people will say. But funny enough, I love them and I am to married to one”. Nigerians men are better than South African men. Get Yourself a Nigerian Man and enjoy life #upnaijamen cool
Embattled rapper, Azeez Fashola, aka Naira Marley, will be arraigned at the Federal High Court in Lagos today to face 11 charges bordering on fraud against him for alleged credit card fraud.
The rapper will be having his first court appearance after spending ten days behind bars.
Naira Marley effectively risks seven years in jail if found guilty in accordance with Section 33 (2) of the Cyber Crimes (Prohibition, Prevention, etc) Act, 2015.
The charge with suit number FHC/L/178C/19 was filed before a Lagos State High Court last Wednesday. Some of the credit cards, according to the EFCC, bore the names- Nicole Louise Malyon, and Timea Fedorne Tatar.
Governor-elect of Lagos State, Babajide Sanwo-Olu, has promised to decongest Apapa road of trailers and containers causing heavy traffic within the first 60 days of his administration.
“There is a lot of politics being played around there. But no, it cannot be the way we’ll continue to live. We cannot continue to give excuses” he said.
Sanwo-Olu made the promise on Saturday during an interactive session with his classmates at the Executive Master of Business Administration class, University of Lagos, 1998/2000 set.
At the event, the governor promised to get rid of the gridlock that has characterized Apapa road for many years irrespective of the politics involved.
He said, “The Apapa trailer issue; it’s a campaign issue; it’s very serious; I’m going to take it very seriously. “I believe that it is something that we are going to solve in the first 60 days of our government.
Whatever is going to be required of us, we will take them out. “There is a lot of politics being played around there. But no, it cannot be the way we’ll continue to live. We cannot continue to give excuses.”
Celebrity Tailor, Yomi Casual has surprised his beautiful Wife, Grace Makun with a multi-million naira Mercedez Benz.
The elated wife who was taken by surprise by this gesture rushed to share the good news.
According to his wife, she doesn’t know what she did to deserve the kind gesture from her husband.
She wrote: “Somebody hold me My hubby keeps on doing the most ! What have I done to deserve this amazing gift God bless you baby I love love love my new whip Y’all pls say a quick prayer for my sweet husband for me this is too much”
“Why must you kill yourself because one useless girl slept with your husband?”, Pastor Funke Felix-Adejumo questioned Married women during one of her sermon.
She further urged them not to bother fighting the said, ‘Sidechick’, but instead dress well, then walk in a way that she’d see them (the wife) and let her know (the sidechick) that she’s not bothered.
Here’s what she said in full;
“Why must you kill yourself because one useless girl slept with your husband. Don’t ever go and fight with the woman just pop up your dressing and make sure you walk in a way that she will see you and let her know you are not bothered. Ajeku mi lo n je.” (You are eating my left-over”
Meanwhile, Last year, a certain Mayowa Olaiya launched a petition requesting that Pastor Funke be barred from entering the United Kingtom, because according to him, she goes around the world, ‘Swindling people’.
His words reads;
“Funke Felix Adejumo is one of a group of Nigerian religious Charlatans who regularly visit the UK to defraud the people and the country. They ask people to sow seeds for miracles and breakthrough and flee from the country with the funds without paying tax. They go from Churches to churches; this is a religious cabal network.”
This petition may not be unrelated to several videos showing the popular pastor asking for donations from church goers.
In one video, she asks for N1million and in another she asks for $1000.
Wizkid’s first baby mama Shola Ogudu finally reveals why she called him out
Shola Ogudu, Wizkid’s first babymama has finally opened up as to why she called out her baby daddy on Social media over his constant neglect of their first son, Boluwatife.
Recall in September 2018, Sola in a very lengthy pot on Instagram, made several claims about the father of her child – Wizkid.
Sola recently sat down with Shola Thompson of The Bar Room Therapy, and she’s explained her reason for calling him out.
She says her reason were because people kept attributing and linking her success to the singer.
According to her, she wanted to clear the air and stop people from giving credit to him. She also revealed she takes care of their son 99% of the time.
Shola talked about her clothing line, her current love life, her parents and her son.
Delectable Nollywood Actress, Ini Edo is giving glory to the Almighty God on how far she has come in her acting career.
Edo says she was one who loved to act when she was quite younger, and never evisaged that her passion will bring her this far.
“Sober reflection of how far God has brought me…I was just a young girl who loved to act, never envisaged my passion would bring me this far.. the journey,the trials, failures,mistakes, tribulations gave me the consistency and the staying power… (still becoming)….
Allow yourself grow through the process,instant success is not sustainable.. Follow your passion and not ‘THE TREND” in choosing a career…Be patient and be teachable, keep your head down and allow your work speak for you because ”
Pride goeth before a fall”.. Above all,I Pray for the understanding and wisdom to manage that which is given to us as the ultimate gift… #thecat#themovie Muna obekwe of blessed memories was always a delight working with him and of course my big bro @Jim.iyke who always enjoyed bullying me till date… well now am a grown woman so… Have a blessed Sunday yall.”
Davido has said he’s “very lucky” to have his lover, Chioma is his life.
Posting a stunning makeup photo of her, he wrote “Your body dey blow my mind”
A fan responded, noting that Chioma is so lucky to have him, ‘a billionaire’ in her life.
Then Davido made it clear that he’s lucky toothat Chioma is so lucky and she’s jealous .Davido made it clear he is lucky too.
How cool!
Meanwhile, African Musician, Akon has observed that PSquare, Wizkid and Davido are richer than most American hip-hop artistes.
He made this known in a viral video while speaking at a summit for youths.
According to him, Wizkid, Psquare, and Davido are richer than most American rappers in reality.
Akon said: “Hip-hop in America, every rapper is rich with Gold chains, girls by the pool in big mansion but when the video is over they get on a phone and call a uber.
“But if you go to Nigeria you have Wizkid, Davido, P-square driving Bentley, Mercedes Benz they actually own those cars. That’s the difference but if we don’t translate that, they would never know.
“The images they show about Africa are so negative. It’s conditioning what we believe. Africa has a rich story too. More people died in Chicago, more school shootings in America.”
Popular Veteran Nigerian musician, Friday Igwe, popularly known as “Baba Fryo” has photos of what some unknown soldiers did to his face.
Apparently, he was allegedly assaulted by the said unknown soldiers in Lagos State.
“I was humiliated by unknown soldiers I tried forced them to the barrack but a female soldier interfered and allowed them to escape. The case is under investigation. Thanks to Ojo Army barrack who took the case on their shoulder I pray they will surely be caught and brought to book.”, he shared.
Baba Fryo who is known for his for releasing street songs like Dem go dey pose in the late 90s.
For, darky, beautiful and curvy actress, Lydia Forson her country people are too addicted to getting laid and it’s becoming a societal menace.
Lydia Forson who wondered why stories about sex spread like wildfire in Ghana while a humanitarian gesture done by individuals and organizations do not get the needed reach, has concluded that Ghanaians are obsessed with sex.
According to the Ghanaian actress, her countrymen are quick to condemn people who openly talk about sex but they are obsessed with it.
Lydia Forson who stated that Ghanaians are overly obsessed with issues of sex, said; “Ghanaians are OBSESSED with sex. They’ll act shocked, disgusted and quote scripture to anyone who talks openly about it.
“But there’s a reason why a story with a sexual reference will spread faster than one about raising money to build a school”.
After spending four days With EFCC due to cyber-crime allegations, Zlatan puts out a song, “4Nights In Ekohtiebo” dedicated to Naira Marley, who happens to still be in detention as he’s still being held for Internet fraud.
In-house producer, Rexxie is responsible for this new jam.
A Nigerian man, MC Paschal Obinna Drich has narrated how a delay at the ATM saved him from untimely death.
Apparently, the delay saved him from entering a bus that was involved in a fatal accident that claimed 5 lives yesterday.
I am posting this LIVE from Enugu Abakaliki expressway, am on my way to Urevene Amarachi2 in Ezza mgbo to MC#Mr_Wiseman_TRADITIONAL_MARRIAGE..i would’ve enter this vehicle but I was delayed at the ATM only for me to return back and it’s filled up..
I shouted and shouted for me to follow this bus but to no Avail so I had to wait for the next one.. Just in less than 35mins later I met this same bus at quarry Site Ezeilo in this condition with 5persons dead and a lot in bad shape just B/W Enugu to Abakaliki, what would’ve happened if that ATM at Holy Ghost mrk round about didn’t delay..where I for Dey???
I don’t know what to say, But thank you JESUS… U said I’ll be behind when its bad in front and u just fulfilled It Again … This is the second time in 8years that you’ve saved me from this same situation of incident.. God God God!!! may your name be praised forever I’m a traveler and you know it and that’s why
I’ve always trusted you alone for my safety GOD Thanks again Am #ijele the traveler and my blood shall never spill by the road side Friends please help me thank this Big God he has done it again
Madam Kemi Olunloyo is claiming that Veteran Nigerian Rapper is the ‘snitch’ behind Naira Marley’s arrest.
The Journalist who tagged the rapper a ‘snitch’ claimed he petitioned the commission with a fake name.
“@ruggedybaba #Ruggedman pls come clean on snitching out @nairamarley on an assumed name to the @officialefcc. We Investigative Journalists also have “snitches” we call sources inside the antigraft agency. We need transparency in this investigation as the petitioner must stand trial too.”
Ruggedman has now reacted.. He says Kemi just wants to trend.. and he has dared her to release whatever proof she has.
MY LAST POST ON THIS MATTER! YOU CANT SATISFY HUMANS!
I know a lot of people want to use this sensitive case to trend, so I will not mention any handle directly.
But all I will ask is that “anyone with proof of Ruggedman writing a petition against Naira Marley should please make it public asap so people will see.
If they dont, then people should know they are sick and only trying to trend themselves.
The same person fighting rogue police on behalf of innocent youths, can not turn around and get a young guy arrested because of ordinary insults.
It’s a pity how quick Nigerians forget cos they are angry, but time will tell.
Naira Marley will be arraigned tomorrow, Monday 20th of May 2019… and prior to this, a Facebook user has decided to berate the singer by claiming his fans and supporters have abandoned him.
The man identified as Ameh, wrote that humans will push one another into troubles but leave the former to their fate to face their consequences.
He further berated the rapper for being stupid knowing fully well he is allegedly into fraud and still running his mouth on social media.
He wrote: “When Naira Marley was exhibiting diarrhoea of the mouth, they were busy hailing him. He has put himself in EFCC wahala now, dem don leave am make e cry alone”
“You see this life ehn, they’ll see you nearing transformer with iron pole and be encouraging you to continue. Once you touch the transformer with the ayon and get shocked, you will die alone.”
“I don’t pity the guy. He is paying for his own stupidity. You dey do illegal still dey loud am like say na fundamental human right. Go and face your court case. You see that goal that you have been shouting since, you’ll score it in gaol. Na that goal wan kee you so.”
Tunji’s wedding was strictly by invitation, so strict was the invitation that details of the event were sent personally to his invites’ e-mails. Knowing this, it was almost impossible not to acknowledge the invitation.
Tunji – an ardent customer of my brand for years – was getting married and it really would seem unkind if I didn’t grace the occasion.
I couldn’t help but think of travel plans for a weekend, by flight or by road and all the hullabaloo that comes with booking tickets and whatnot. Also, I had never been to the Federal Capital before and do not even have any relations there, so, accommodation was added to my list of worries.
I eventually opted to attend the event. This was after I’d drafted a budget for the trip and subtracted it from my savings. I could afford flight tickets and a relatively cheap hotel close to the location of the event – Habitat Guest House, Gwarinpa.
The D-Day cam and I touched down Abuja in an hour and few minutes from take-off while Bolu – my dear friend who rode me to the airport – was still stuck in Lagos traffic.
I ordered a Bolt (Taxify) to Habitat Guest House and in no less than forty minutes, we arrived in Gwarimpa – there was no traffic from the Airport down to the place… Wow, Lagos, wow!
As simple as it looks, Habitat Guest House’s exterior was soothing to the eyes, not spacious but not clustered either and so, I booked a room for two nights and in no more than 3 minutes, I was laying face down on my neatly spread bed that’ll be mine for two nights.
Tunji was happy to see me, although we couldn’t talk much because, durrh, he’s the groom.. the event was a bliss, many a tears shed in joy… and I was back to my room thinking of going back to Lagos the next day, oh my God, Lagos!
I hadn’t planned anything for my trip, just the wedding shenanigans and I fully regret it but I thought to make up for it by just chilling at the bar lodge of the hotel.
I ordered a bottle of Smirnoff Ice and was having a chill time gulping it until I saw a waitress pass with a bowl of really appealing pepper soup she served another customer. Once this guy took off the white wrapped nylon from the bowl that was containing the aroma of the soup, I began to sweat at the back of my head once the smell hit my nostrils.
I knew for sure that I had to have this pepper soup and so I beckoned on the waitress and told her how I want the same bowl as the gentleman next to me… about twenty minutes after, a bowl of goat meat pepper soup was placed right in front of me and at that moment, I knew my half-drunk bottle of SmirnOff wouldn’t wash it down for me and so I ordered for another.
Halfway down into the peppersoup, my lips were on fire, sweat dripping down my whole face and a subtle sniff from time to time, the gentleman who was having his own bowl of soup seemed not to be as into it as I was but he could clearly see that I was having a helluva time with my bowl of soup.
Chuckling, he said “Oga, take am easy nah, the soup no dey run away, hehe” and I responded, “Chairman, nah war oh! We die here”… little did I know that virtually everyone in the bar had heard me and so it erupted into laughter from different corners… I was literally unbothered about what they thought of me and my peppersoup, all I knew was, I’m going to enjoy it to the fullest since I’m about to go back to the reality of Lagos the next day.
About 55minutes after take-off and as we descended, I was beginning to see congested land, I literally could see the traffic along the Airport road to Maryland and was almost crying over what I was about to face, but what gave me succour was the thought of the soup I had the previous night… just as I thought about it, a mild sweat began secreting at the back of my head.
For years, hotels.ng has set out to promote creativity and support brilliance. With this in mind, they decided to make the Content Writing Challenge a yearly competition to discover and reward excellent writers that could be famous authors in this country. They’ve curated a list of top hotels in Nigeria and they’re appreciating their service quality through this writing challenge.
The Ondo State Government has said it is not yet legal to cultivate cannabis, popularly known as Indian hemp, in the state.
Governor Rotimi Akeredolu, who was in Thailand last week in company with the chairman of the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency, Muhammad Abdallah, for a programme tagged, ‘Medicinal Cannabis Extract Development’, said the state government would aim to take advantage of the commercial and medicinal value of the plant to create jobs for the youth.
The governor however came under attack since his comments and now he’s warned that cannabis cultivation is yet to be legalised. Speaking through the Commissioner for Information, Yemi Olowolabi, the governor said the state government was in the process of making it legal.
He said ;
“We are still at the elementary stage of this matter. Before we legalise cannabis growing in this state, it has to pass through certain procedures and we have begun the procedures. The assistance we seek from the Federal Government is the collaboration we already have with the NDLEA, which is an agency of the government. Since we are dealing with the NDLEA, we are dealing with the Federal Government.”
Rhythm and Blues artiste, August Alsina is down with allergies that has left his face swollen but the singer took to Instagram to joke about his face busting out because iconic Hollywood actor, Will Smith punched him.
He wrote,
‘Will finally caught up to me about all that Jada crap that was going on in the news. & let’s just say, he whooped my axs!! Guess that ALI training really paid off’.
Before switching up the caption, August Alsina initially admitted allergies caused his facial reactions.
A few weeks back, Alsina’s “Nunya” cover caused a stir about possibly having a low-key romance with Will’s wife Jada Pinkett. In the video for August Alsina’s cover ‘Nunya’, the New Orleans singer is having a text conversation with a woman named ‘Koren’, which fans have pointed out is Jada Pinkett Smith’s middle name.
In the song, August wants more from his girlfriend, giving her time to make him a priority. At a point in the video, he sings the line “You’re just an actress putting on a show,” and a GIF of Jada Pinkett appears on the screen After the two references to Jada, fans are convinced that this song is exposing August and Jada’s affair.
However, Shatta Wale has disclosed that he walked to the stage to congratulate Stonebwoy.
Read his statement below ;
If Ghana police don’t warn That boy about his trigger happy life erh ..we all go show gun for town cuz he can’t pull a gun whiles I didn’t.
This is the third time I have heard this and seen it with my naked eyes. Ghana shouldn’t watch it and wait for that day to say we could have stop this.
My crew had good intentions moving up there for us to prove that unity to make this 20years celebration a wonderful one but hey ,as usual Shatta Wale dierr Ibe dis ,Ibe dat “ so what happened just happen and the sensible ones saw how insecure music has made some people just to pull out guns ..
Somebody should tell that bwoy, I have been to gun ranges, I got people who wanna share their last blood for me and when we pull guns we fucken shoot …. He should never try that on me cuz I didn’t see it .. charted house also gave him the chance to come say he will chew me like gari if he meets me one on one …
If I meet him and he doesn’t do all what he said Cuz he has been given a gun by ghana police to feel that pompous, I WILL DO WHAT I HAVE TO DO TO SQUARE HIS STATEMENT ..then GUNZ will talk instead of people !!! To acquire a gun in Ghana ,you are told by law officers that until someone pulls a gun on u before you pull gun but here is the case certain people will just support his foolish actions because he is a cripple !!! !! I Am fucken proud Ghanaian who just wants to entertain but they still wan tag me the bad boy when I don’t even show it ….
Singer, Zlatan Ibile’s has sent his love to Davido after the latter unfollowed the former on Instagram .
Davido’s social media action came after friends of Zlatan berated Davido’s camp for falsely reporting that he engaged the services of a lawyer to free Zlatan.
Zlatan however, has shown he has nothing but love for Davido, a man whom he has collaborated to make hit songs in recent time.
Popular Nigerian comedian, Senator and his wife Kemen Njoku are celebrating their 7th wedding anniversary today.
His wife took to her page to share her undying love for him as she wrote,
‘Loved you then, love you still. May the good Lord perfect everything that concerns us. Amen It’s been 7years baby! Happy wedding anniversary to us. Love you munchos’
While Senator wrote,
‘Happy Anniversary to my Gee. 7yrs on this journey na God. Thanks for everything Dearie. God bless you immensely. Love you’.
A 39-year-old petty trader, Moji Aderibigbe, appeared in a Yaba Chief magistrates’ Court in Lagos on Friday after she was accused of stripping naked and pouring urine on the church altar.
Aderibigbe, who resides in Pedro Area of Lagos has been charged with insult to a religion and disorderly conduct. The Police prosecutor, Sgt. Modupe Olaluwoye, told the court that the defendant committed the offence at 8 p.m. on May 13, at No. 49, Onabola St., Ladi-lak area of Bariga, Lagos.
Olaluwoye told the court that Mr Francis Osibowale, the pastor of the Firebrand Power Ministry, caught the defendant’s 15-year-old son vandalising church property.
“My Lord, when Aderibigbe was told that the pastor had taken her son to the station, she took off her clothes inside the church building
The offence, she said, contravened the provisions of sections 124 and 168 (a) of the Criminal Laws of Lagos State, 2011.
Aderibigbe pleaded not guilty to the charges read to her. The Chief Magistrate, Mrs Oluwatoyin Oghere, admitted the defendant to bail in the sum of N50,000 with two sureties in like sum.
The case has been adjourned until May 22 for mention.
Three members of Christ Mercyland Deliverance Ministry (C.M.D.M), Warri, Delta state were left in total shock after their church’s senior Prophet Jeremiah Omoto Fufeyin, called them out after they’d donated the only N50 they had to support the ministry’s building project.
The drama finally turned into jubilation as the founder, Mercy Television, Prophet Jeremiah Omoto Fufeyin surprised everyone by gifting the 3 members who donated N50 with N1,500,000 million naira (N500,000 naira each).
The members who did not anticipate the blessings they left with are said to have given all they had to support the ministry.
Owomowomo 1 as the pastor is fondly called, said he was instructed by God to bless them financially for publicly admitting they gave N50 to support God’s work after he had announced a minimum of N500 donation for the building project.
The thoughtful gesture brought tears to the eyes of the members, they could not believe what had just happened. They left the church happier and richer than they came.
Nse Ikpe-Etim is one of the most successful Nollywood stars in the last decade but she has been on the grind since she was a teenager.
Earlier this month, the award-winning actress held an event “Conversations with Nse” where she opened up on being diagnosed with Adenomyosis, a medical condition in which the inner lining of the uterus breaks through the muscle wall of the uterus.
She was then advised to get a hysterectomy. “My world had crumbled. I had died a million times. It was something,” she said in an exclusive interview with BellaNaija‘s Mercy Akamo and IK Nwosu.
She’s choosing to speak up now because it’d help others and it has also helped in completing her healing.
“It seems like I’m the only one that has this issue. It’s fine. Make me the poster child. It’s fine! My point is, would it help someone else? Yes! Has it helped me? Yes! And I choose me, and I choose life and that’s what it is,” she says.
The journey to healing was tough, she said. “I think the only reason I’m holding back on saying how long the struggle has been leading up to this point is because, it’s too harrowing to go through. It’s not just the physical pain, but the emotional, psychological pain. Everything.”
She continued: “But I don’t know how I’m thankful for it. It makes me who I am today. It was tough, but that moment when I knew that I wasn’t going to have children again and the doctor recommended a hysterectomy, my world had crumbled. I had died a million times. It was something.”
Nse got married in 2014 to her high school sweetheart Clifford Sule who she reconnected with years later.
Clifford has been more than supportive to her as they went through the trying times, including when she mentally quit acting and continuously put herself down. Now she’s healing and is ready to live her life to the fullest.
“(Clifford) is an extremely private person so I don’t like talking about him in public. This I’ve done? (Talking about him publicly) I know what it’s done to him. But he understands the larger picture and he knows it’s freedom for me,” she said. She continued:
The healing cycle has just been complete. So now, I’m ready. I’m ready to do my work. I’m ready to go back to work. I quit! Mentally, I had quit. It was over! Because society said so? That’s not right. It took a lot to get here. Constant waking me up at 3am to remind me that “You’re never happy unless you’re working”.
I quit acting! And I never said anything that I took a break, so each time something came up, I wasn’t really interested and that’s what depression does to you. You see nothing good about yourself. I’m speaking up because I know that people go through these things. And you must get out of it. Try, speak to someone. It’s real, it happens. Find something in you to give you strength to move on.
You see, I don’t like saying “my husband”. My friend, kept pushing. The only reason I don’t talk about him, I needed to preserve his privacy and I think he deserves it.
Nse’s family was also there for her too, giving her the needed support.
“If I have to come back to the world, it’ll be the same family. Everyone’s so cool. My mother? Pillar of strength. With my sisters, the bond is too good to be true. We fight hard, we argue about a lot of things but is there love? Yes. Is there light? Yes. And that’s all that really matters,” she said.
She shared parts of her journey with us, with hopes that it helps someone out there going through the something similar, or the same challenge, as it affects millions of women across the world.
The journey has been a long and harrowing one, she said. “I can’t really start from the beginning because that’s too long a journey. I’ll start from when I started healing.”
Nse shared with us how she was able to come out stronger.
Societal Pressure
Because of where we’re from, societal pressure, after you get married, everyone expects you to have a baby. The pressure of getting married is over and everyone is waiting for you to have a baby.
I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, herself and her husband do not have any children together, but they have kids and they have people saying to them: “you should have one together”. They have children!
In my own opinion, I just think we should learn to live and it took me a while to understand what it was to just live. I guess my journey in life, my struggles have helped me to appreciate that the gift that keeps on giving is life. I’m here. Have I chosen to live it? To the fullest and yes, I’ll enjoy it too.
After getting married, the pressure set it. It wasn’t family pressure. It was outsiders and the constant barrage of questions. You have someone come up to you and say: “Hi Nse, so when?” When what?! You know, and if you ask “When what?” they’ll say you sound rude. But you’ve just come into myself and you’re asking me personal questions and they’re supposed to be “well meaning”. How well meaning is that? How about you ask, “have you eaten?” Or “are you having a good day”.
You see, those things pressurise you and you start to ask yourself if you’d every be “complete”. Now that’s another kind of pressure again. That’s mental.
Challenges with Giving Birth
And then the struggle comes, I’m not one of those who actually wanted to be in it. But then, I changed my mind because I’ve seen my friend, and he gets me and we start the journey together. And it’s not happening, because I’m struggling.
I think the only reason I’m holding back on saying how long the struggle has been leading up to this point is because, it’s too harrowing to go through. It’s not just the physical pain, but the emotional, psychological pain. Everything. But I don’t know how I’m thankful for it. It makes me who I am today. It was tough, but that moment when I knew that I wasn’t going to have children again and the doctor recommended a hysterectomy, my world had crumbled. I had died a million times. It was something.”
Clifford’s Amazing Support
Someone asked me, “how did you get him to agree?” Hehehe. It was funny because you actually think I got him. He got me to accept! You see. So, yes it was more of a case of “I’d rather have your life than have you dead.”
First of all, I’m thankful for having a friend that understands. Forget what ever relationship exists. But having someone who can get how you’re feeling without actually knowing the pains you go through, is worth it. I think that gave me a bit of a push to accept it. Even though accepting was not in my books. I’d pass snide comments about myself, I’d put myself down constantly, until I finally was in a really dark place.
I wanted nothing, really. And what is even weirder is, I decided that for someone else to be healed, I’d donate what’s left to science. And that’s fine! That’s fine. Because it makes me feel better. It makes me feel like I’m helping someone out there and that for me, was the beginning of my healing. For some people, they say “have faith”.
I’ve got faith that I have peace and that’s everything. I’m not bound by what society thinks, I’m not bound by what anyone feels because after all said and done, I’m here on my journey, I’m walking the path no one else is walking with me.
But, when I look back and see how many women have gone through these things and will never speak, because of shame, the stigma that comes with it. People would even call up verses from the Bible: “We should go out and multiply”. But do you also forget that it did say that “We would have trials and temptations?” There will be things that put our faith to test. Are you willing to accept it?
This is to those people who insist I should grab onto a cloth of a man that’s like me, I think that’s not fair on me. Don’t push anything down my throat. I have made my peace, and I want women to make peace with themselves. These are conversations we never have. Things we hide under rocks out of shame and we no longer have voices because we think that the world would crucify us. Okay fine, crucify me, but hear it! I suffered and I chose life. I’m thankful that I’ve got the best support ever and that’s all that truly matters and it’s happening everywhere.
The 2019 Big Brother Naija Show is just a few weeks away and we are excited! Although, the exact date has not yet been confirmed, however organizers of the show stated that it will air this June.
For those of you new to big brother, here’s a rundown.
A group of people all live under the same roof for 3 months in a house with multiple HD cameras and microphones recording their every move all day. Each week, the housemates compete to vote out one of their own, until the last remaining player claims a whopping prize.
Last year, the show tagged ‘Double Wahala’ had housemates with different abilities who proved that there is more to them than just their pretty faces.
Well this year, the bar has been raised and our expectations are at its peak. Here’s a list of what we expect from the contestants.
1. Realness: This should be a given quality. I mean you will be spending 90 days in the house, how long can you hide who you really are? Best be real and rip out the band aid sooner than later and let people accept you for who you are.
2. Fun: As you all know, Saturday night parties are usually lit and we expect some fun housemates this year. Last year, the show had Alex and Tobi who people referred to as the lives of the party as they were the most talked about dancers in the house. So please get your party shoes on!
3. Fashion Sense: At the end of the day, wouldn’t you like to be remembered in a certain way during and after the show? I mean we are not saying that you should be a style icon but please, come with a sense of style and originality. Be yourself!
4. Diction: Need we say this? contestants should please speak proper English or better yet Pidgin English. Let’s not get the two twisted.
5. Talent: Past BBNaija housemates were recognized for their individuality and talent. Housemates like Bisola Aiyeola was known for her music and acting talent, Miyonse who is now a known Chef are the best examples of how far talent can take you in the house. So, yes, talent does count.
6. Be Smart: The most important quality of a BBNaija contestant is being smart – the capacity for logic, understanding, self-awareness and learning is extremely important especially during the various BBNaija tasks.
Also, it comes to play when differentiating between friend, foe and lover in the house. In fact, being smart may be the most important point on our list.
So there you have it! The six things we expect from contestants at this year’s Big Brother Naija Show. Do you agree with the list?
Zlatan Ibile has finally shared his first words since his release from EFCC custody.
And his words were dedicated to his ‘brother’, Naira Marley, who happens to still be in detention as he’s still being held for Internet fraud.
“Naira we became LEGEND’s at a very tender age!!! I can’t wait to HUG you bro”, the singer wrote on his Snapchat, while wearing a T-Shirt that had ‘his mugshot’ printed on it.
That’s not all, it happens that Zlatan is set to drop a new track dedicated to the release of Naira marley.
