I really need your matured advise. I caught my friend’s girlfriend cheating (having sex actually) with another guy and she knew I saw her of course.. She’s been begging me not to talk.

If I keep quiet now and My guy later finds out I knew about it I will become a bad friend.

If I talk it could be the end of a 4 years old relationship!!!
I’m even scared the girl may set me up if I decide to talk.

Advise please.

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  3. If u dnt tell ur friend dat mean u dnt like ur friend and u can allow his gf to kill him at anytime. u better tell him. if I were u I will off her finger so that she won’t try such again

  27. y dont u mind ur biznes or dos it
    mean is only her ur friend is slepn wt. has he neva cheated on sombdy b4? if u hv nt don anytn rong 2 any lady, b d 1st 2 tro d stone by destroyn d rlatnshp olofofo.

  37. d gal her own sef,a guy has been eatn u
    raw 4 gud yrs & hs stupid guy frend of hers got d nerve 2 report her, a guy we
    neva pay ur bride price u kep body him de enjoy. wake up gal.

  39. Just mind your damn business dude, I’m sure your friend is also cheating too. But why will your friend be dating somebody for 4 years na? Seriously its bad that the girlfriend is a cheat talk to her about what she’s doing, its possible if you tell your friend he will just not believe you and think you want to sabotage his relationship

  82. Most girls here saying mind your business. Me I go talk oh,is left for my friend to decide if he still love the girl but i must surely clear my mind, i don’t compromise rubbish. If my friend love the girl they can continue but i must surely speak out what I saw.

  86. It’s advisable u tell him nw so dat u clear ur conscience bcos u might b forced to tell him in d nearest future wen dere is misunderstanding btw u wit d girl or d ur friend as at d tym they are married or close to marriage. Remember, sometimes, we actually lose control of anger when dere is misunderstanding. A tym will come when we can’t keep d secrete any longer we just want to voice it out either by to hurt d feelings of som1 or so. Nd it will b more disastrous at dat tym. Remember again we ar human

  99. Guy go and tell your friend don’t listen to them bcos all of them are the same don’t you see that all of them are just saying mind your business don’t mind your business oo bcos is your friend ok what if something went wrong she now give your friend a bastard child Wright is that what you want for your friend?

  102. Anyway it depends , Such thing has happened to me before, A friend of mine cheated with another friend of mine girlfriend, I kept it to myself , Reason is because this girl is not in a serious relationship with any of them.

  123. That is a woman trade, it is undignified of a man. Your ability to overlook some things makes you a man. Telling your friend may give you momentary credibility, but trust man, you will soon turn a cheap gossip.

  126. i see some stupid girls are busy say dat u should my ur businesa,so as for me ur a guy and agen ur his friend so pls told ur friend what u see with ur eye because if u help him today one he will help u and told u importer something to u,so seriously told him so dt he will know the kind of love he is going to give to a girl now,thank u

  130. They are not married its tru dat wat applys to man cant be applied to a woman its africa so there for u dnt have to tell him cos there is nothing like secret it will flame out and she has a conscience leave her to it

  137. D tin is don’t tell d guy.. just talk to d girl one on one nd advice her like a sis. Let her knw or remember her Hw much ur friend really love her agine nd again.. after dat leave her wit her nd let her mind talk too her..

  138. Pls tell ur frnd becos he many marry her but she can’t stay that her husband house becos she is use to share her self tell him time wait for nobody so that he will knw how he can step out with her

  152. I can’t keep it hidden if her man is truly my friend…cos if I were to be the one been cheated on as well…I wouldn’t appreciate a friend that was aware and never told me…

  153. Mr man you don’t need any advice again because this one you post them on social media is more than telling your friend. You have done a marvelous one because you don’t only tell your friend but general public.

  162. Tor, when you knew if u talk it’ll sabotage the forever relationship, why then seeking for advice? Truth is, we all know what to do, advice or no advice, you’ll still do the fuck you wonna do! Follow yo fucking heart bruh and fucking mind yo biznes! . Y’all cheat too, but wen a lady does that, she becomes a slut.

  163. Girl friend abi wife, if you say girl friend, then you must talk but if na wife, my mouth no dey there. Girl friend is someone who may eventually become someone future wife and if you don’t tell, you messing with that guys future. Is better you tell him so he can make his own personal decision.

  164. If u want to tel him den make sure u already ve another gal to give him…cox me u cannor coman tell me my boo z cheating wen u don’t ve a new boo for me cox I cannot b single while u r still dating

  180. Please somone shuld prove me wrong, u re seeking for an advice either to tel or nt, bt u ve posted ur guys babe pix,ur pix, & dat of ur guys pix for d whole world to see, don’t ur friend exist in dis planet earth?? Is he nt going to see evry tin himself?

  182. Use this opportunity, chop the girl. First of all check the girl pocket, know how much she can provide.tell her that you need a every huge amount of money in order to keep your mouth shut but if she refuses to corporate treating her with the incident, lol am just joking oh.

  191. Bro you talk or you no talk a cheat is a cheat, there is no way fish would leave water to wear heels on the level ground. Just advice your friend to have a rethink, a sharp man would understand but if him no understand , a liar and a cheat can’t be smart for ever she would be caught by him eventually or somebody else would see her then burst the bubbles . Just be on the safe side ,girls can be dangerous ooo . But you wetin you find go catch her? Your way no pure tooo

  204. My dear mind ur business is ur frd not cheating by de way y will u be dating her for 4yrs no engagement no marriage my dear girls don’t put there eggs in one basket until someone say i do OK, is ur frd dating only her?abeg keep ur mouth shout av ur frd ever told u what he sees ur grfd doing outside u?

  206. Advice dat u tell ur friend, cause unfaithful girlfriend will no doubt b unfaithful wife 2mor, or beta still keep dem in ur prayers and let God separate dem or whatever he want

  209. I caught my best frnd gfrnd wit a guy, she didn’t even care if I saw dem, few minutes later my frnd called me to warn me abt stuff I dnt understand d Gul told him. So u Cn imagine if I had told him he wld ve tut mayb I was trying to cm btwn dem. Like dey say luv is blind Ryt?

  213. Telling him is not the problem, the problem is will he believe what you are saying .so I advice you keep your mouth shut let him find out the kind of woman he married by himself. If not he may think that you want to destroy their relationship and take his woman thanks.

  214. Let he who has no sin throw the first stone. If you know you’ve not cheated on anyone before and you’ll never cheat, then follow you’re mind, but if there is am atom of the above in you…..you mind your business. Thank you.

  226. You are big fool and idiot if you dont say it out…tell your friend and allow him to decide…such.matters are too big to hide..the girl who was busy cheating should have thought of the effect of it before cheating…for you to see them is becos God wants you to tell your friend …..go ahead and let the cat loose … tell your friend.but dont tell him the decision to take..let him take his decision ….God will hold you responsible if you allow your friend to be harm tonorrow by hidingvthis truth from him…do you know the effect of cheating ?is better your friend know his wife to be is cheating and will still cheat tomorrow before he says i do to her….dont ever think tht girl will change…she will never…she will even be worse when in marriage..boy !pls dont shut your mouth pls.

  230. @ Nwachinemelu Fred Olisa u make me laff u ask am well ,,,ad d gud in picture him no dey cheat? 4yrs relationship never reach to marry? Weytin ge dey keep her for if he really love her?

  240. That’s not a question to ask. Let your moral compass guide you. But my question is? Where did you find your friend’s girlfriend with another man? Chances are they were not having sex in your house…. maybe her’s or the man. So, where did you find them and what were you doing in such a discrete area?

  248. Is not secret again, everybody is aware of it, that is why we are commenting and your picture is being displayed here.
    Even if you tell him or not, he should be aware it by now because here is social media
    It would have been better you hide it in your mind .

  259. This is very complicated! If you talk you might tear them apart forever but if you keep silent the lady might give your friend killer infections perhaps you might loose him. I have been into this kind of situation but I sealed my mouth and my guy later lost everything he had because he was married to the lady and the lady was sleeping around then her promiscuousness affected his Hubby . The man’s finance crashed and he came back to square one , though he is yet to find out but what has been joined together who is Daniel to put assunder?

  264. You be mumu abi? Even your own girlfriend is doing it with another man too.. Can’t you open your eyes very well and see the world? Forget about that okay? That’s woman for you. Your girlfriend is also fucking another man too. Be wise!

  269. If you don’t want problem between you and your friend, and you want to keep your friendship,mind your business. a cheat will always be a cheat no matter what u do for him or her…,.

  273. if you don’t tell your friend you are equal to the bitch..u are also a fake friend jus like his girlfriend..for me I will tell him what I saw and if he like let him continue to love her I’m jus gonna do my own…it reminds me when I saw my friends dad with a lady in a bar I told my friend and my friend to his mother the all issue bounced on me but I don’t give a f*ck his parent had issues for some months and they later settled and I think he’s dad is now super careful or quit the act I dunno, all I know was dat I played my role

  274. Na lie ooohhhhh….
    My guy must hear am oo.
    Which 1 b “mind ur own business”
    It’s my business, nd datz y I will “mind” it criously. My frnd must hear.
    Bcos if na d babe nabb me nw she go jst dial my bae number, mak she cum witness wen d activity dey go on.
    I will so tellll my frnd bcos, i will b helping his life big tim wit d piece of info…

  297. The number of “Mind ur businesses” from women is 1,599. The rejected number of “Mind ur business” from men is 108. Accredited chatter is 360. we therefore declare this inconclusive, the margin calls for suspicious. INEC

  298. tell ur frnd…supposed..if he tinks his gf is faithful bt she is a CHEAT..supposed…if d gal contact STD..nd transmit it to dat ur frm…then u ll regret it…..

  307. 4years is quite too long a time to keep a lady waiting. If a guy is serious about a lady he should do the needful. If he doesn’t have enough money he should at least make an effort of declaring interest to his family and to the lady’s family. Keeping a lady at a spot for 4hectic years in the name of “relationship ” is wizardry. The lady probably was having a second thought and maybe checking out for the most serious fella who maybe has a better intention for her within a reasonable period of time. 4years in a relationship is way too much time to waste for a lady. #my thought though#

  311. 4 me I will say talk because if u no talk now is 2 sure 4 me dat even if she get married to ur frnd she will do d same and she can kill ur frnd ,so 4 u not 2 lose ur frnd at last Is beta u say it out now b4 is 2 late . And 4 dose gals who are saying Dnt talk if we find out now dey are doing same tin hmmmmmmmm.

  312. This issue really shows the difference between guys and ladies with respect to reasoning ladies r saying mind ur biz guys r saying I will tell after some one wil be asking men and women who lies d most I think from dis opinions it’s obvious if I don’t tell my friend anything dat happens to him later in life is on my head I will never forgive myself if he likes let him hate me tomorrow as my conscience is free friends come and go but truth is eternal

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  330. even the bible says a man can leave his wife on account of infidelity,mind you,she used her hands to destroy the relationship,a lady that can not be faithful in a relationship wnt be faithful in marriage,haba ladies,assume u catch ur brother’s gf cheating,wnt u tell him?

  345. My dear pls mind yr own business don’t tell yr friend every day is for d thief but one day is for d own na so just live them let them enjoy there self because one day d own na will come keep your mouth shut

  346. If u tell him,dat fair enough in d spiritual world n d lord will smile at U..but in d physical world my bro gels r deadly she cn say u also slept wit her n due 2 d jealousy stuff dat y u cme 2 lie..at dat point u both are loosers:cos u will loose Ur friend either being beaten or u being alive 2 tell ando 1 n d gel leaves d guy..dere is a proverb dat say’s”is not all dat d eyes see’s dat mouth must talk..be Wise!!!dnt get IMplicated..nemesis will surely catch up on her…

  353. If you catch your guy with a side chick, will you tell his girlfriend? ..you better keep your mouth shot and mind your business because your own girlfriend is also cheating on you. ..

  360. Is better u tell him now dat he has not married her dan keeping quiet bc it better to have a broken relationship dan to have a broken marriage. If u didn’t say it to now. Make sure u remain silent for d rest of ur life after their marriage bc wat God joined 2gda let no man put asunder

  363. You be mumu how come you caught her, are you sure you not going after her, she is not your girlfriend, she belongs to your friend nd now you caught her having sex with another guy, whr, how nd in Wat occasion, see guy if I’m your friend, you will have enough to explain although I know dx is not true

  367. Go ahead if u love Ur frnd better to end the relationship now than to end marriage for infidelity. Remember, the day Ur frnd got to knw he won’t forgive for keeping quiet on issues that affect his life time. Better confide in him let him decide once u are sure is true.

  371. Advice the girl to stop it and also open up to her boyfriend. She should ask for forgiveness. Whether it becomes her weak point or the reason she is loved more. Is hers to handle. Buh i know cheating is really bad. If you do cheat there is no gain. Everything is the same whether fair or dark skinned. What you will see is the same thing. Biko.

  374. U have mentioned girl frend not wife how many boy frends do u think she have. Do u think these gals centred on only one boy frend? No be karewa they ar doing the same thing wit others so dont waste ur time:D

  379. I want 2 remind u of diz wise saying dat “it is raining n Shea butter is seriously lafing at salt dat it is dissolving n salt 4geting dat after de rain, de sun is going 2 shine n it will also melt, my friend,, wen u see ur friend’s beer burning, fetch water n put it beside u it may come to u,,,, u cought ur friend’s girl real handed wit a different guy n de best advise is 4 u 2 tell ur friend straight forward dat u saw his luver wit a different guy, n who knows maybe dat guy is nt de only guy she might been sleeping wit, so tell ur friend about it ok, dus my advise to u ok……..!!!!!

  418. Cum u dey find who you go say he or she talk is not girl pix you post on FB so whether you talk or you no talk Facebook don talk am so bros leave dat thin you be wan talk before. Cux if really you want to save the relationship you could have not brought it to public is broke already so my dear leave am you Don talk finish

  420. At ur age you are still talking of girl friend boy friend ,my advice is shame on you,,Facebook platform u r using was not invented on the bed of girlfriend boyfriend. See the huge need of humanity begging for solution and this is what u have time to share on social media.msh!

  424. My dear if you know what’s good for you just mind your business o…because she might turn the everything upside down…claiming you have being making advances towards her…n u will be d black goat in d midst of the sheep. Remba 99 days for d thief only one day is d own of d houz.

  428. Go ahead and tell him bcox if u dont ,ur friend might step into a forever burning fire by marring her.Jesus said “no man should divorce his wife for any reason other than her UNFAITHFULNESS. she is not married to him yet and she is already being unfaithful to him. Is it when she has full control of the mans heart that she will be faithful? I don’t think so.tell ur friend and save him from living in pains and agony in future. Love is kindness, Love is endurance, Love is patience ..Not cheat or deceit. 1 CORINTHIANS 13

  429. so she is not ur girlfriend forget about her and mind ur business. why I said so is this if u go and tell ur friend that is other problem abeg just pretend asif u didn’t see anything or head anything

    • Hello madam…do u knw wat they have engaged in….
      If he’s a true friend then he shouldn’t lie to his friend…shea u are a Christian ba? have u come across dis verse in d bible….if u knw wat is ryt & fail to do it, it is a sin

  444. Abeg waka pass! You no bad friend! Some day, the guy will catch up with her… Don’t be the one to destroy the relationship and I know the guy must have cheated so many times

  446. Hmm complicated issue. Well,as for me,i will tell ma friend ooo because if i don’t tell him peace of mind will not be with me and ma conscience will be judging me. I will tell ma friend oooo if he like he can believe it or not

  448. Hmmmmm….. Not much complicated , just gonna let that slide and keep an eye on his , then later when suspecting him of it again I will v to set a dice game for both of them and let the owner be around to see for his or her own eye the truth , cos who knows if the girl also cheat on his man

  451. When you see something, say something, Nigeria unites against terror, flirting, calamity n so-called cheating. Talk ur mind! And most definately she must leave d old life to new, if she wills. Ok…..

  453. I go tell bcos aids is real b4 she giv my friend aids n he die jus lik dat.
    I witnessed pple dat die in same line n i will not want loose a frnd lik dat. If d gals cheats, she is likly 2b hiv patient.

  455. Just talk to the girl tell her to stop what she’s doing then let it be don’t tell ur friend anything if she don’t stop time will tell,there is noting hidden under the sun he will found out one day,and if ur friend ask u why didn’t u tell him since u knew tell him u didn’t want to break his relationship.

  457. My question is,has the guy done anything on the Lady’s head? If yes,the guy is free to tell his friend before it is too late, but If no, the lady is still free to do anything She wants with her life.

  462. A man who sleeps with 20 girls is sexually purer than a woman that sleeps with two men. Save you friend’s life by telling what you saw and let him walk away without beating her. That’s why you are his friend.

  464. Its only an enemy that sees a wrong against his friend and keeps quiet. That is a dangerous enemy. The girl already made her choice by going to cheat on your friend. Girls can be very disgusting when it comes to cheating

  478. You better tell your friend but also advise him to treat the case maturely. Because if you keep shut, the girl may end up putting your friend in a mess that you also won’t be happy to see

  479. AIDS is real,if nt telling ur guy,thus leting dat ashawo to infect ur guy wit HIV wil make u hapi,be my guest,bt remember dat a broken relationship is beta dan a broken marriage.

  484. You see the problem we are having today is not because of the bad people, is because of the good people who sees it and keep quiet. If you knew that what you sow was nothing but the truth don’t fear to tell your friend and advice him. Tell him the way you sow them and in the way he can cut the. If you keep silent you are 1 of the bad people. I know that the truth is always bitter but it’s sweeter than honey when it was out.

  485. I will advise u to tell him becus if they eventually marry she may continue with it and when your friend knows u knew her ways before they got married without telling him ,I don’t think he will forgive u oooo

  494. who told u that the girl is ur boy friends friend? with the action,she is just a harlot. telling ur boy friend is just giving him an advise to take a run. that is the best idea if really that guy is ur boy friend

  495. The issue on ground is very risky what I think he can do is monitoring the lady without her knowing and let his friend see it himself bcos wen guys are in love most of dem don’t believe in such and it might affect der friendship

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