A man whose girlfriend lied to him has cried out for help after finding out that his girlfriend is HIV positive. He has been having s*x with her without realizing her status and now is afraid he might have contracted the virus.
I am 30 years old man. I met my girlfriend last year and our first time together was on the 8th of December 2011, there was no s*x but we had enough deep kissing, I know I got bad gums that most time when I brush my teeth, I could see blood coming out, we were actually together for 3 days and still no s*x though she gave me oral s*x twice and I didn’t come inside her mouth but on her body. I went to see her again on the 28th of December and on my way there, there was this sudden fever I was experiencing on the train but I was hoping that I should be okay. When we met that night we had a protected s*x for the first time and slept.
Following morning I was so sick and the symptoms are hard fever, rashes, headache, sore throat and swollen gland inside my mouth. I had to call the emergency doctor at night, on getting to the hospital, the doctor collected my urine sample, insert the strip and told me I got infection. He asked me to buy TRIMETHOPRIM, after about 1 week I was okay. During this time when I had the swollen gland and sore throat, we were still kissing a lot.
Our love life continues and as we don’t live in the same town, we only see each other like twice every month. In February 2012, while we are having s*x, the condom burst, I noticed immediately and told her, she quickly push me away and asked me to rinse my pen!s with soap and water. I did what she asked me to. I didn’t stay up to 10 seconds inside her when the condom burst and to wash me pen!s everything happen in less than 1 minute. I asked what was happening and she told me she once got STD and she is still treating herself, I was keen about the particular one and she said Chlamydia.
Two weeks later, after kissing and oral, at the start of vaginal s*x, the condom breaks again and only my pen!s went inside and I pulled out back immediately, I didn’t wash my pen!s, I just changed the condom and we had s*x. I didn’t feel any signs or symptoms but I went to see my doctor to test for STD, he did the test and told me I am okay and free of all kinds of STD. He even sent my urine to the laboratory for further test and the result came back normal.
I proposed to my girlfriend 2 weeks ago so that we can get married, she was just crying, I thought she was over-joy but later she told me she needs to confess and she lied in the past. When she told me she is HIV+, the shock nearly killed me and my breathing was above normal, I later calm myself down and handle the situation maturely so that she can feel secured. I got totally confused because I know we have had contact twice and kissing and oral are also there. We have had s*x 10 times in total and all with condom, I always withdraw my pen!s, remove the condom with my right hand, and wank myself with the same right hand on her body. I have also come in her mouth once.
Now to my questions, even though my girlfriend always make sure i wear a condom before we have s*x, I am so worried about my bad gums and the contact we have had together. She told me she was diagnosed in January 2011 and up till now she has not started taking any Anti-HIV medicine as the doctor told her she doesn’t need it for now but maybe in the next 10 to 20 years.
Is there any HIV virus like that? Even though I feel no symptoms but am I HIV+ already? Ever since she told me, I have been going through this stress and anxiety and I actually don’t know what to do. Please help.