Nigerian pharmacist and disability advocate, Blessing Mary Ocheido, has taken to her social media page to narrate how her father’s family mocked and humiliated her mother for having only female children.
According to Blessing Mary, the in-laws said that as far as traditions were concerned, her mother had no children yet.
Her post reads ;
There’s an interesting on-going discussion about the rights or lack of of women who are married according to traditional customs in Nigeria.
I’m stunned that people are surprised that the woman or girl child has almost no rights based on most cultures in Nigeria. In fact, if you think otherwise, share any customs or traditions in your community that protects or uplifts women and girls
I mean, I was less than 8 when I decided to stop going with my family to the village for Christmas celebrations in December. This was as a result of the humiliation and pain my mum, especially, always suffered at the hands of her in-laws
They mocked her for having only girl children. Told her that as far as traditions were concerned, she had no children yet. They went as far as calling my sisters and I useless and tried to get my father to marry a second wife who would birth him a son= a heir
My father had to put his foot down and told them they were simply illiterates if they believed that the sex of a child is determined only by the mother. He told them it is their male children that are useless and they should watch what his girls will achieve in future. He refused to let them look down on him and it was not funny at all
It was so bad that the last time I visited my parents’ villages was in 2004. Heck, if you dropped me in the middle of my community now and ask me to locate my ancestral home without help, I will totally be UNABLE to
This may sound harsh but I have ZERO respect and tolerance for the bullshit that is most traditions and beliefs in this part of the world
There’s a popular story of a man who almost left his wife of many decades to die (she had a stroke) because he believed she cheated on him and so the spirits (alekwu) were serving her her due punishment
I will ask again, is there any tradition or custom in Nigeria that protects and uplifts women or girls? I’ll wait.