The 6 biggest mistakes couples make in bed

Mistake #3: Falling into a rut

There’s something to be said for sex so familiar that you can anticipate what’s coming next. “Each of you knows the buttons to push for the other, and if you have a routine that’s giving the other a good orgasm, then by all means, keep at it,” says Nelson. But it’s not uncommon for couples to get entrenched in habits that aren’t working. They just aren’t sure how to change them or worry that speaking up will hurt the other’s feelings.

The fix: “Pick one day a week to do something different,” suggests Nelson. Start by telling your partner three things you appreciate about her sexually, plus one bedroom move you’d like more of. Then listen as your partner does the same. “Talking about sex can increase the sexual tension between you, and if you do this exercise in bed, it can really turn up the heat,” Nelson says.