#6 You may confuse lust with love. Starting off with some conversation and moving on to sex can lead you to confuse your sexual attraction with genuine attraction. There’s a difference! Getting all hot and bothered can bring out a surge of hormones that make you feel elated and ecstatic. This can make you think that you’re happy when you’re around your date, when in fact your body is just reacting to the promise of great sex.
By removing sex from the equation at the start, your feelings are based only on your mental and emotional connection. Since your hormones can wreak havoc on your mind when you have sex, your physical attraction may start to override your emotional connection, thus making you think you’re in love when you’re actually in-lust.
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Why you should…
When you really think about it, is sex with someone you’re on the first date with such a bad idea? You might end up missing out on a fantastic romp! For other reasons to just go for it, here are five very good arguments to consider.
#1 Sexual compatibility matters. Let’s face it, sex can be a deal breaker. You can be dating someone for months and everything’s fine and dandy. But once you finally get it on, you might learn that you’re completely incompatible in the bedroom. Sometimes, this can put a strong enough strain on your relationship that you eventually break up on the grounds that you’re no longer attracted to your partner as a whole.
The first date is basically a compatibility test. If you both pass each other’s conversational and life story criteria, then the next logical test would be the sexual criteria. Why not just go for it in one fell swoop to save you both the time?
